Tubes tied after child birth...?

Question

okay so about 3 months ago I gave birth to my third child. I was going to get my tubes tied but after a very painful birth, two screwed up i.v's, a very painful epidural and them taking the epidural cath out I was scared and just tired. They told me my doctor would come in and talk to me the night before and he never did.

So I was very overwhelmed and tired and scared so i deceided not to do it.

but now people are giving me c**p about. I got pregnant at 17 and now am 24. I am very fertile. And I don't regret my children I always wanted three. But why do people have to make me feel guilty about it. Why do I feel like I have to explain why I was so scared, and why i was tired, and overwhelmed.

Did anyone else deceide not to do theirs at last minute because they were scared?

Answer 1

I have had 4 children all with failed contraception obviously and my doctor wont sterlise me as i am only 29 which i find very annoying as i am very fertile.  I want to be sterlised as i am done carrying babies. its done by keyhold surgery now throught the side of the bellybutton and you go home on the same day

Answer 2

I have not had mine done yet but people tend to try to make me feel like I should have. I only have 2 and my husby and I want at least one more. When our family says you should get your tubes tied after you have another baby which they openly reject too we just say thats our concern not yours. I think people including our family should keep any and all comments regarding this nature to themselves. Its a personal choice we all have to make. I dont blame you for changing your mind, I think I will have trouble with it and will probably back out too! I would try to just kindly tell them its not their business if you can!

Answer 3

good on you - you shouldn't make a decision like that when you are tired and overwhelmed ( my mum did at 21 after having me and she regrets it to this day)

get a iud/marina inserted (lasts for up to 5 years) if you want semi-permanent protection - then you can make a decision in your own time. because once it's done there's no going back.