Turkish Waiters??????

Question

I went to Bodrum for my holiday and got friendly with a waiter he wants me to go back to see him as soon as I can but I have heard so many things on the t.v and from people saying not to trust them I just don't know if its just a ploy to get over to England or if he truly likes me what do you think?

Answer 1

I think that the fact that you have doubts of your own - hence you asking this question - should be sufficient to tell you that-even in the unlikely event that he really does "like" you -you are not sufficiently crazy about HIM - otherwise you would have leapt onto the next plane out there without thinking about it.

Answer 2

Yes, he thinks he can get an easy skirt, since their own girls are closely watched by their families.

Answer 3

This is a classic situation. I have seen it before, and not just in Turkey. A friend of mine even married a charming Turk, met during a business trip, after making several visits to see him in Istanbul. The marriage was doomed from the start and she was taken to the launderers big time. Another friend had a hot blooded affair and found later that he was already married, had children, and she was the regular foreign "bit on the side" that he could boast about to his male friends.

Similar stories occur  in many other touristic destinations. There is more than a grain of truth in programmes and films, such as Shirley Valentine, that you may have seen, otherwise they would not be so common place. These holiday romances are short lived and waiters are notoriously known to be charming towards single foreign lady tourists. It is also part of their job to attract return customers and make them feel special. You may even have read more into things than there was. He probably did truly like you, but in so short a time it is unlikely to be a grand passion. You already are asking yourself questions, so clearly it is not the grand passion for you either. Spare yourself heartache and disillusionment at a later date. He may very well have ulterior motives such as those which you have already considered or have been suggested by others. What has he to offer other than honeyed words? What do you really know about him? There is a vast gap in culture between Turkey and the West. It is not so long since men there legitimately had more than one woman. Even if he is serious and would like you to go back there, where would the relationship lead you? Would you have to do all the running?

Time will tell, but the chances are that those who have advised you to be cautious are justified. He may already be saying the same things that he told you to another unattached lady whilst you are "out of sight, out of mind". Think of it as a pleasant episode, but do not rush back.

Answer 4

How can we know that, lady? I'm Turkish, even I can't tell you this. There are bad and good people everywhere. I'm sorry but stupid question.

Answer 5

sorry luv, but it's just a ploy. Most of them do this for a living.