Tween shows NO curiosity about s*x??

Question

My 10 yr old son shows absolutely no curiousity about s*x. He goes so far as to cover his eyes or leave the room if he sees 2 people (not even passionately) kissing on TV. Am I complaining? NO. But I also have a 13 yr old son who shows, and has shown for a few years, EVERY sexual curiousity. While I'm not thrilled, this seems normal. My concern is that my younger son is going to middle school next year and I have not even had the birds/bees talk w/him. I had to have it w/the older son in 4th grade. Everything I read is about the exact opposite: children having curiousity about s*x too early (for the parent's sake at least). Has anyone else experienced my predicament? My son will be going to middle school next year and I certainly don't want him learning about s*x from anyone but me......well, you know what I mean.

Bkgrnd: I'm a (divorced) single mom. Father (very unfortunately) does not have any contact w/boys. Both boys have high IQs, are in advanced classes, athletic, sociable.

Answer 1

He sounds like a normal 10 year old to me. I was the same way at that age.

Answer 2

Be happy! He's still young, doesn't need to be interested in this. It might be a good idea to give him some basis of the talk before someone tips him off in schol.

Answer 3

We had the same scenario here.  My older son asked about it all--and wanted details--very young (6), and my almost-10-year-old doesn't want to have anything to do with it.  

I know what you mean about wanting it all to come from you!  Definitely.  What I'm doing right now with my younger one is taking opportunities that DO come up to feed little niblets of information to him in as casual a way as possible, and then REMINDING him that if he ever has any questions about anything like that, that he can always ask me.  

Good luck!!

Answer 4

I am still confused as to your concern, to be frank.  He's a normal 10 year old boy.  No worries, sadly the world will start influencing him sooner rather than later.  You might want to have a birds and the bees talk before he goes into middle school, so he gets the right information, but if he's not curious, that is great!

Answer 5

He's 10.  He's normal.  Be Happy.

Let him enjoy being a child.

Answer 6

my brother is 10 and hates when the word s*x is mentioned. only girls get curious around 10, i think 13 is a normal age for a boy to start getting interested in girls. this is totally normal, don't worry.

Answer 7

That's totally normal. Every kid is different.

But have the talk asap, you're already probably a bit late.

Answer 8

my 9 year old (girl) cousin covrs her eyes and says ewww when there is a kissing scene   i think its fine

Answer 9

There's nothing wrong with that.  He's 10, and still thinks that 2 people kissing is "gross".  Just because he does not show an interest does NOT mean you can't talk to him about it.  I don't understand your predicament.  Talk to him now before other people give him the wrong facts.

Answer 10

I'm 20 now and I am pretty sure I didn't have any interest in s*x at that age.

You can always tell him to come to you with any questions and I am sure he will.