Two Problems dress and MOH?

Question

okay problem number 1. My wedding not until 2010 and when i first got engaged one of my MOH said lets go shopping. My real feelings were i dont want to but, i dunno got excited and decided to look for dresses. Well found one really liked at the moment and bought it because shes like get it get it. Well now i regret buying it and i really want to get rid of it. I tried ebay at least 5 times, and craigslists, as well theknot.com and brides.com and wedding channel.com i wish i didnt get it yet. anyone can help. Second the same MOH is being not a good one. I always invite her to the bridal shows and places i like. The first time shes like ya ill go and the day before canceled because she did not want to wake up early and then actually got drunk that night:( earlier this month i invited her again to the same place where i want to get married and she told me the earlier week that yes shes going. well the day before she cancels because her bf had his wisdom teeth out 4 days prior and needed to be with him and now she has not texted or called me and i dunno if i should text or call her? i was really upset, should i be?

Answer 1

well if its not until 2010, dont worry about buying dresses until that year, because you will change your mind about the style of the dress, and ppl can gain or lose weight. also, if she's not a good friend and not reliable, you have every right to change your mind. plz, dont keep her in the wedding just because you dont want to hurt her feelings, she's hurt yours more than once and this is YOUR wedding. you dont want her to not show up to the ceremony. my best friend wasnt reliable so i didnt even have her in my wedding, i told her it was only going to be family and a small wedding, she understood. just tell her its not going to work out or that you forgot you promised someone else the spot. or be blunt, say  she's not reliable and its your wedding, its going to be stressful enough and you want everything to run smooth and shes not being supportive and reliable so if she wants to come to the wedding thats fine but you found someone better for the MOH position.  

Answer 2

Yes, you should be upset and maybe reconsider her to by your Maid of Honor.  She is not acting like one at all.  You still have time to politely tell her that she's no longer maid of honor.  Maybe a bridesmaid, but not MOH.  Also, an engagement is for one year.  You have way too much time to start making plans and buying a dress.  You could try your local paper or garage sale, and say the dress was never worn.  Or try to trade it in, or return it to the place you bought it from.  Styles and tastes change in two years.