Tyring very hard to do the right thing, but she won't allow me to?

Question

Don't woman realize that by saying..?

they want space and time, just makes us men grow further apart from them. My GF said she still wants space and time. She also stated that she loves me and wants me, but isn't "whole" and that she's got so many un resolved issues that she can't give a relationship 100%. So, I've been told to be patient, and wait(by her). But doesn't she realize that the more I wait, the more I grow apart? Why doesn't she consider my feelings too? Or should they not be considered? I need to know what to do, because I want her. But don't know how long to wait and if I'm doing the right thing. I can't just turn my heart off. There is no other guy. Our new born is 2 months old. How much of this is hormonal? Ladies please tell me what to do!! Thanks

Answer 1

Sounds like she has some issues. Give her some space and see how things go, but let her know about your situation. If she cant understand that, then maybe she is not the one for you.

Answer 2

im a woman and i never saw the point in that. its either i really want ya or i dont. if i'm in the middle i consider it as i dont. love should be a sure thing for both. i personally think if she loved you enough then you cld go through whatever problems she has TOGETHER. Are you sure she doesnt wanna see someone else but just doesnt wanna hurt you?another question is, how do u feel about her? cuz u may be waiting in vain and letting life pass you by in the process so find out if you love her that much. talk to her seriously and tell her what its doing to you and decide on what you are going to do based on her reply.

ps if you have a young child all of this cld be harmonal. rub her back and talk to her seriously man. get to the bottom of this for all of your sakes.

Answer 3

You need to share with your girlfriend how you feel. But when I have felt that I needed space from my husband it came at a time when I felt "if we make it we do and if we don't we don't." Not to say that is how she feel but there are times when situations just make us want to step back and see if the one we are with is the one we want to be with. And if she is in her lower 20's that has something to do with it to. She is changing and becoming more mature and trying to figure out where she wants to be. But if you pull away it just might allow her to move away and you could lose her. So just communicate with her so she gets space but not too much that you feel she is not there and you grow away from her.  

Answer 4

I highly doubt that she was saying all these things to you knowing that you two would be back together.  I think she's just trying to be nice and let you go gently.  I feel sorry for your baby.  Only 2 months old and will never get to see her parents together.

Answer 5

It could be the changes she is going through having a new born baby. She may be having a hard time coping with everything that comes along with a baby and having to dedicate your whole life to a baby is not an easy transition. Perhaps she is confused as to whether being a mother and somebodies GF is really what she wants. I can speak from experience when I say this because I went through something similar when I had my baby. I left my husband (still my BF at the time) several times because I wasn't ready for everything that came along with having a family. I wanted to be free. But it could also be that she wants to explore her options but keep you around in case her plans don't work out.