U think I should take my 8 year old son to get some help?

Question

He is got himself in trouble at school and now I hear that they are gonna suspend him for 3 days. My son lives with my parents right now untill he finish school in may and my mom called crying over the phone saying that my son got suspended for 3 days by what he have done. He threw a chair at another student. why? He couldn;t tell me or my mom. I am going on 22 weeks of my pregnancy and this is makeing me stress out alot. I have no idea what is going on with my son, why he been acting like a mean boy at school. it hurts me for what he is doing. U think he needs some help or what? his dad is not around so there is no help comeing out from him. what should I do?

Answer 1

Well since you said your not living with him and your currently pregnant. Maybe you need to be his mother and take care of him. Not his grandparents! He from what your saying is acting out for some attention,any attention and is i am sure stressed being away from you and you have another baby and his feelings like he is not your baby anymore.Why not take him for his 3 days suspension and make him feel like your little boy again, you know what I mean,be his FULL time mom!

Answer 2

i do not believe in children's therapy even though i am going to school to be a psychiatrist but in this case i think you should consider it there is a reason your son is acting out that i don't believe is ADHD and don't let a doctor slap that label on him with out actually testing him they like to do that it sounds like something else like he is missing you or as much as i hate to say it some kind of abuse children that young can interpret you wanting him to stay with grandma and grandpa because its best Right now into mommy doesn't want me around her maybe she loves this baby more then me but you need to have some one talk to him about it if he wont talk to you before you just assume something

Answer 3

He might need some help. You might want him to tested for ADHD to  make sure that not causing the problem. Talk with him and tell him that he shouldn't be acting like this at school.. Good luck and please don't be stressing out during your pregnancy..

Answer 4

It really could be that he misses you or maybe thinks you have abandoned him.  It could also be that he is a troubled child.  Just keep an eye on his behavior and if things get worse take him to a psychiatrist immediately.  Do not waste time.  The sooner he gets diagnosed, the better off he will be when he hits puberty (when all chaos breaks out).  I, too have an 8 yr. old son who has gotten into trouble at school by defying his teacher.  Most of the time when he does this though, he is just not feeling well or tired.   Try not to stress, this too shall pass.

Answer 5

I think your son isn't well controlled by his grandparents. He also needs to see a psychologist.

Answer 6

Maybe he was pissed at another kid. Me being a grade schooler some kids can be irritating

Answer 7

lots of children around that age act out in violent ways.  you should realize that you are definitely not alone on this issue.  I dont think you need to stresss about finding him medical help.  If he is going through a stage of behavioural problems, it may pass.  Give him some time to talk to you or your parents, if he continues to act out without expressing why, then maybe some counselling.  Remember, kids his age go through all types of stages of how to handle anger.  sometimes they find acting out in violence easier than using words.  Good Luck!!!  Hope he improves

Answer 8

it might be a good idea, but just because a child acts out or behaves badly does not mean you have to rush him to the doctor and shove pills down his throat. My 9 year old nephew is on anti this and that, and is completely screwed up. Counsiling helps, sitting down and actually listening to your child helps to. And discipline if need be. Big brother big sister, he may need some good one on one time.

Answer 9

you left your son and you are pregnant with another child. You boy probably feels abandoned and like you are replaceing him. Bring him out to be with you NOW

Answer 10

I am 100% sure that what your son needs is bonding and quality time with you.  Possibilities are that he might feel out of the loop with your pregnancy. Let him be part of your joy and transformations.  Please see that all he is doing is asking for attention.  You should also speak with his teacher and his school counselor.

Blessings,

Answer 11

hes acting like that cause he misses u go spend time with him d**n do u think ur a good parent

Answer 12

Can you elaborate on why he is living with your parents?  How far away from him are you?  Could it be that he really misses you and doesn't know how to show it.