UGGGGH going crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

ok so ive known this guy for like a year now.

we just like talked and talked and havent done anything

physical, but we always felt like we really connected

with each other. ive kissed him a couple times here and

there, thats it. well we hadnt talked for like two months,

after we had a bad argument. i got a new number and he

asked for it over myspace, is how we started talking again,

like two weeks ago. so this weekend was the first time ive seen

him in a while. we kinda got physical and it went all the way.

i was with him all night and day, until earlier. my problem is,

i miss him sooooooooooooooooooo bad!!!!! i feel like its like

unhealthy how i miss him so much. were not 'official' or anything,

because we're both very busy, so idk how serious its gonna get.

to be honest, he deals and uses weed and sometimes coke.

i KNOW thats horrible and should be enough reason to drop him,

but i CANT! hes an amazing person otherwise and nobody compares

to him.

so my question is, do you think maybe i miss him so bad is because we did the dirty? i havent been attached to a guy afterwards like that ever. i feel like i NEED him... is that bad or like, unhealthy?

were at points in our lives where we dont know what we want.

should i like stick with him, or give up????

any help, or thoughts, anything please!!! im pretty bored too,

so anything to talk about??? i just really want to talk to someone about this.....................

were both 19.

Answer 1

i think you should figure out what he thinks about the two of you. kinda feel him out if you'll be able to tell if he's thinking just friends but if you guys start seeing each other more often and messing around a lot then you should probably bring up the conversation about a relationship with him because if you really like him then it's not fair for your feelings to get too straong for someone who doesn't want the same thing as you. if he wants to be just friends then that sucks but it's so much better than not having him in your life at all but if he wants to be more than friends and wants a relationship then you have to ask him when the time is right. and if he ends up wanting the relationship then if i were you i would tell him the drugs needs to end. that's a lot to ask for and would be difficult to end but i can see that causing lots of fights in the future. hope i helped! and thanks for helping me!!

Answer 2

your the only one who can make this decision... If he makes you happy go for it...

Answer 3

i know this feeling..

i dont like it because you feel like

if you need them..

well dont worry if it is ment to be it will happen.

so hang around with him and see how he treats you..

like a gf or a friend..

then you will know.

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Answer 4

haha "the dirty"

just call it s*x

star for you

Answer 5

I was involved with a person that drank to excess. It was always a problem in the relationship and it is like they have another person that you share them with, I would be leary of it. You are young, have plenty of time to meet other people. If you get bored easily, then maybe that is what the missing is all about and s*x can be a powerful draw. Be careful, I would not be exclusive and see other people also. Just my opinion. Our relationship never went anywhere even though I enjoyed her in lots of ways, s*x was great too. It is kind of a trap.

Answer 6

I don't know. It's too early to say. Don't get obsessed with him. Let him want you and come to you. Act like you have a life and other things to do. If he feels the same way he'll be back soon. Just let it all play out. Don't come out needy.