UGH! soo frustrated.!?

Question

I am soo frustrated! if you read my other question before you would know that im 13 and pregnant and Kayden who i dumped last night after the question went up to my parents today, told them that im pregnant, and that i told him im going to pin it on him because i "Can" and they actually believed him!! they freaked at me for having s*x which isnt a surprise, getting pregnant, that wasnt either and for trying to blame a "Sweet boy" like Kayden. like wtf? then he told them that i was never really dating him and that the times that they caught me sneaking out it was to sleep with another guy that he "Cant tell the name of" when infact i was sneaking out to see him. what do i do?! my parents are sooo pissed at me their not talking to me. :(

Answer 1

well, first off..give your parents time to let your pregnancy sink in. secondly, it looks like youll be going threw this pregnancy without "him" assuming that you are keeping the baby. your 13 years old, and he is 13 years old. neither one of you are ready for the respononbilities of taking care of a child. believe me. i had my first at 17. i would talk to your parents about adoption. maybe having a close family member take care of the baby. do home schooling until you have the baby. i have 2 little girls and a baby on the way. all of them are from the same man. however, when we were 17 with our first..he was there the whole pregnancy and then left when she was about 3 months old. i took care of my daughter ALONE for three years! it was the hardest thing in the world, but now he is back in my life and our kids and is a great father. first hand, its harder for men (boys in your situation) to take responablitiy for kids at a young age. dont count on him! base your decisions soley on YOU AND YOUR BABY! good luck ( and be more careful babe)

Answer 2

Wow! You're pregnant, for real? First thing, you need to talk to your parents and explain your side of the story. You need to have a REALLY LONG talk. GOOD LUCK :)

Answer 3

i won't criticize because obviously everyone has told you the same but....you need to seek counseling from someone that is not going to judge you and is going to guide you.  find a teen and women's clinic in your area, a guidance counselor or school nurse.  it's your choice what happens to this child but you need help and you cannot make this decision on your own I'm sorry but you are way too young to make this decision on what would be best for you and this child go find a clinic or someone in school or that you trust but you do not have a lot of time.....good luck

Answer 4

Your parents are in shock that you are pregnant.  You should have told them before he did.  Tell them they can believe him if they want but just when the baby is born you will swear by a paternity test he is the father and than they will see what I jerk he really is.  

Maybe he is too naive to realize that paternity can be proven in this day and age so let him know that two can play at this game and if he doesn't own up to it you will pursue this all the way to court and he will look like a real a**hole than.

Really consider your options for an adoption but tell your parents straight out if they choose to believe a perfect stranger over their daughter than when the baby is born you want a test because you are insulted that they would take his word over their own flesh and blood.  Let them know that this guy is a jerk and even told you his plan to try to make you look bad to weasel his way out of the responsibility.

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Write them a letter with all this information and leave it in an envelope on the table.  Tell them that you know it was wrong to get pregnant and have s*x at your age and to sneak out to see Kayden and you understand them being hurt , angry and upset.  Tell them that you hope they can forgive you for this but you are hurt that they are taking this perfect strangers word over their own daughters and want a paternity test to prove you aren't lying when the baby is born.  Tell them you are scared and could really use their support and to think that this boy (that you broke up with the day he ran to them) is telling the truth is crazy.  Don't they realize that he is trying to weasel his way out of any responsibility.  Good luck and hopefully they will talk once they get over the shock.  You are their daughter and most parents will love their child unconditionally but can still be very disappointed and angry.

Answer 5

As hard as this may be, you need to stay positive about the entire thing.  I would highly recommend going to talk to your school guidance counselor or similar person at your school.  It may be difficult or embarrassing to do that, but please trust me, they'll be able to guide you and give you not only advice but also moral support and help you in any way you need.

I don't think your biggest problem right now is your boyfriend/ex-boyfriend.  You need to focus right now on the most important things - your school work and your pregnancy, as they are very critical to keeping yor life on the right track.

Best of luck to you, stay positive, and try to communicate with your parents - even if they're upset with you, I'm sure they still love you and want what's best for you.  Remember that being a parent is tough, and try to communicate with them as best you can.

Answer 6

Summer, let the jack A@@ say what he wants right now. when it comes time to start getting child support which I very strongly suggest you do and i don't care that you are 13, put him down as father and DEMAND a DNA test to prove it when the baby comes. If you are absolutely sure, 100% sure he is the father and you have been with no one else, and don't lie because the truth will come out soon, then make him get the test done. That will prove to your parents too that you are telling the truth.

Answer 7

Okay, and your question is?

If you thought you were grown up enough to have s*x and get pregnant, they you should have been grown up enough to tell your parents you were pregnant.  

Answer 8

s***w your parents! They should be listening to their own daughter and not some other little boy.  Just keep your head up high, Im sure when the baby is born you can have him take a paternity test and that will prove them all wrong and then you can say I told you so!  

Answer 9

if you take enuf morning after pills itll solve ur problems

Answer 10

dude your 13 and pregnant, dont mean to be blunt hun but if i was your parents i would feel the same way

Answer 11

well you have a very draratic life right now. if they dont belive you you cant really do anything, they are probably just overwhelmed right now, once they let it sink in that your pregnant, you can tell them and hopefully they will believe you. anyway, good luck with your baby :D

Answer 12

If the father is this boy Kayden, tell them that you are not lying, your their daughter and you need them to believe you right now.  Then tell them the facts calmly.  Good luck hun!  =o)

Answer 13

Well first of all where were your parents? Why have they not talked to you about the facts of life? OMG this really upsets me, your so young. At 13 my girls were so focused on school, sports, and doing family things that boys were the furthest thing from their minds. Honey give your parents time to think about your situation. How far along are u? You know what the truth is so don't worry about the lies Kayden is telling. The truth will come out. What do you want to do about your pregnancy?