URGENT HELP NEEDED!! School and teacher issues....?

Question

My friend and I have been friends since the sixth grade and are now going into eighth.

Some girls that have something against us made up all this stuff about us to get us in trouble.

They said that we called them fat, ugly, disgusting, kicked dirt in their face and gave them the finger.

NONE of it was true but the teachers didn't let us get a word in and told us we were on the verge of suspension.

Our teacher forbid us from hanging out and we were not allowed to talk to each other at all. Even though we had done nothing wrong.

All was going well and today, 2 months after the incident, our teacher told us we were allowed to hang out 1 hour a week because of good behaviour.

We cherished the lunchtime we had together but as soon as those girls found out, they made up more lies.

They said we harrassed them, teased them and threatened them because we were together again.

The teacher called us into the classroom after school and yelled at us for a good 20 minutes.

I cried for an hour after because you don't know what it's like to be restricted from talking to your best friend that you see nearly everyday.

How can I convince the teachers that they have no right to choose who I hang out with and who I don't hang out with, and how do I tell them that we didn't do anything.

They wouldn't believe us.

Please help

All answers appreciated. :)

Answer 1

just tell your teachers..heart-to-heart that they are not you and you is the only one to make your decision

Answer 2

I'm a teacher that as a student was in our same situation.  Bottom line, girl trouble is tough and when one group of girls gets crossed with another, it will never resolve.  Trust me, I know!

I think the teachers might be believing the other girls because they might be not as cute or not as popular and feel sorry for them.  People might be perceiving you and your friend as "mean girls" if your are pretty and popular.  You might not even realize that you were a "mean girl".

Best action, talk to your parents and a school counselor.  Explain the situation.  You and your friend need someone in your corner.  Someone needs to arrange a meeting with that teacher.  

That teacher shouldn't be griping at you based on here say (spelling).  She needs facts to punish you.  I don't think legally she can tell you that you can't hang around your bf in the halls, etc., in a classroom she can, though.  

This seems like a really big deal right now, but don't let it ruin your middle school years.  Have fun, be nice, and get good grades.

I'm all for kids working out kid problems, but thos eother girls have a teacher involved, so if I was your mom, I'd go up there to call a meeting!

Answer 3

tell your teacher and you don't know the reason behind it. You also need to tell your teacher that she has to saty away from you too. because she is causing the problem. as long as she is away then she can not make any kind of herassment stuff for you.

She just does not like you, or after school just go bit the h**l of her and tell her if she does that again you will do it  again.

Answer 4

You need to have your parents and your friend's parents meet with the teacher and administration to discuss the situation.  I question why you were not given the opportunity to discuss your side of the story with the teacher...most teachers would give you the opportunity to do so.

I think the entire situation is cagey since you seem to indicate that you never did anything to this other group of girls...did something happen that you are not sharing?

Answer 5

The problem is that they DO have a right to decide what you do in school and with whom you do it.  They can absolutely say that you cannot hang out with a certain person, if they feel that the two of you are bad as a team.  

If it is really true that you never did anything to any of these girls, then it is time to involve your parents.  Have them come in to talk to your teachers, or even talk to the parents of the girls who are accusing you and your friend of these things.  I know that these things happen, even in college, where I teach.  It is easy for teachers to believe the wrong party (although it is less likely for several teachers to all believe the wrong people).  Know that you can still see your friend before and after school, so it isn't like your parents are restricting you from having anything to do with one another.