US born child wants to live in Italy with Italian parent.?

Question

If you had a US born small child with a Italian national and the Italian parent is moving back to Italy. If you US born small child wants to live in Italy with the Italian parent because the child likes it better in Italy than in America. And you as the American parents believes that that is want your child wants. The child speaks English and Italian. Would you voluntary allow this if the Italian parent is a good parent and has the means to take care of the child and will allow good contact. Or would you keep the child in the US because that is you legal right under US/Italian law, even when the child rather lives in Italy.

Answer 1

It would be hard, next to impossible for me to ever let go of a child of mine. and I don't even have one yet.

But keeping the childs interest at heart, if you could set up where the kids spends school and that time there, than flys back to america for spend summer and christmas and other times together too....

as well as your "vacation time" that you fly over to Italy and visit.

Also the kid experiencing multiple cultures is good.  If the other parent is a good parent and you know that I think I would let the child choose, with of course the above mentioned things of you getting to see your kid.

I don't know how old this kid is...

But I would let them choose if there was no harm in it besides heart break.  as long as you got to see him/her often.

Answer 2

I think the child will benefit greatly from knowing both cultures but the Italian parent ought to set up web cam conferencing and cell phone contact and other ways for child and parent to have daily conversation and contact and should be willing to translate the child`s school reports and records from medical visits into English (if the American parent does not read Italian -- though they ought to learn as soon as feasible.)

The American parent should also set up his or her life -- ideally work they can do from anywhere that makes a decent income -- to allow for extended visits to Italy or flying the child to the U.S. often during school breaks etc.

It is possible to have a child raised here and there without too much disruption for the child. I think it would be a great life for the child as long as they have lots of contact with and love from both parents.

I would encourage it all things being positive -- the parent is a more than fit parent and the American parent will have lots of contact.

Answer 3

I would say to let him/her go where he/she wants to go.  even though it can be sad that he/she will not be with you, it is best the child be free to choose - as we all are entitled to our choice, and free will.  I think it would be a beautiful experience if he/she went to live there, I'd bet that later on, or even a year or so who knows the child will come back to america on his/her own. everyone loves america... but who wouldn't revel in the ability to live abroad!  i would make some sort of contract with a legal advisor to assure that there are actions you can take to see your child, should in some unfortunate circumstances your relationship with the other parent become sour... or not be what you had hoped.  should you wish to see your child, and not have the means to go there and get him/her yourself...

Answer 4

this really doesn't sound like any sort of a problem at all.

both parents are good. the situation to share custody is great.

the son could do either one:

attend school in Italy and spend his summer in america

or attend school in america and spend his summers in italy

i doubt there would be any fights over holidays and vacations.

if he wants to stay in italy 100% that is fine. i am sure he will travel to see you and the other parent. he is old enough to know what he wants. the parents are being very mature. it will all be just fine.

Answer 5

let the kid go where they want to be. but avoid relinquishing US citizenship. unlike most countries the US doesn't accept dual citizenship.

legal rights don't mean much if everyone agrees its ok. to force a child to live where they don't want to isn't very nice.

Answer 6

let him go, wouldnt be fair if I made him stay

Answer 7

Just because its your "right" doesnt mean you have to excercise it. Motherhood is about doing what you think is BEST for your children not whatever Congress gives you the right to.

Answer 8

Let the kid go.