Ugh WHy Do I Feel Like I Just Don't Belong? ?

Question

Ok so i'm not crazy for the most part haha, i'm not introverted, and i'm not a loner, BUT i just don't like high school kids. They're judgemental and mean and gossip and all that dumb junk. Even with my friends I feel like I'm so much different, like I wanna see new places and travel the world and meet new people and so on, and they wanna find boyfriends. I'm NOT saying i'm better than them at ALL, we just have different interests. Its not just this group of people its like EVERYONE at my school. Is this normal sometimes or am i just restless? any advice?

Answer 1

Okay I definitely know how you feel. I have the same problem. I've always wanted to travel, meet a lot of people, and see all that's possible. My friends and I never see eye to eye though. I do get also that kids gossip A LOT. But for gossip a lot of times you have to say to yourself  "Hey people here are shallow and I know I'm at least mildly better so i guess if they're talking about me they're leaving someone else alone who can't handle it." But if you don't like you friends then I suggest possibly not making them very close. Try doing different sports activities and whatever else so you can meet people that like the same things as you do. I know when there's no one around it seems not possible but just keep looking for someone to be a good friend who has the same interests as you and isn't a shallow gossiper.  

Answer 2

likely you're much more mature than they are... they're self involved and can't see the "big picture" but only selfishly what involves quick gratification of their immediate desire...

wait for college.. older people there.. more mature , more goal oriented... its not written anywhere that one HAS to have a significant other while in HS ... its a narrow pool to choose from. branch out... i know plenty of people who found someone interesting and mature (but still fun) to talk to over the internet..

and for the record... though i wasn't a big fan of the movie superbad... the "advice" given to McLovin at that bar... thats TRUTH .. heh. pickin up people in a bar is NOT recommended.

soo.. don't pressure yourself to do things you don't enjoy just because...  be your own person.  

Answer 3

It's normal. Well not in terms of high-school idiot normal but y'know. You are just a nicer person than they are. I think you need ME as your friend! lol. Because I don't feel like I fit in either. It's so annoying. I think what makes it like this as well is that your a teenager and it's always a difficult stage for everyone.  

Answer 4

I think you are reaching for too much too soon. It is great that you want to see new places and travel the world ( So do I, hopefully I will go to India this summer with my dad I'm half indian btw) but you need to plan out when you need to do it. You can't travel the world in one week...let alone a school week, so must people focus on other stuff. I understand what you saying, about the gossip and others are into different things but if everyone was the same then we wouldn't have an identity. Once you are out of school you will have time to travel and meet people with your interests. For now, focus on your education and be on the lookout for people with your interests.