Ugh!!! money...?

Question

okay so i found the most amazing horse to adopt... well he's not that great but i love him to death

he's a thin, slightly lame, older thoroughbred who will probably need tons of vet care and retirement pretty soon... but i can't help but love the guy...

of course there's no where close enough to my house with cheap enough board and my parents won't chip in anything... so there's no way i'm getting him

has anything like this happened to you? how did you get over it?

Answer 1

yeah there was a gorgeous rocky mountain horse i wanted sooo bad. but he was wayyy out of my price range and at the time i couldnt find an affordable stable to keep him at. ugh i was devastated.

so i went 'shopping" and went to every fair in my area that was selling horses, and i found a nice breeder who sold me an unbroke mare with no experince with anything at all. (which was why i could afford her right?) now she's broke and i jump her and take her on trail rides. oh i also found a neighbor with some land and she lets me keep my mare there for free in exchange for training her horses.

so just search around for a place to keep the horse first and maube try to find a nice horse that wont need as much medical bills. i mean horses are expensive, whichever one you buy will always need shots and checkups and teeth floating, but as long as you can afford all that and you have a good place to keep it, go aheasd and keep looking for a nice horse. Good luck!

Answer 2

Ok, well, I fell in love a a tb with one eye, he was free, and was just like a normal horse. I have two horses already, and only 3 acres. My dad said i had to get rid of one i already had, or not get this one. Im still deciding if i should give my too small pony, hard headed pony to a person that will show her, and get this tb. Or keep my first pony, and let the tb fend for itself. Im leaning toward giving away my pony.

(we live in east coast, in VA, if your interested in a brown and white 11hh shetland/wlesh pont mare)

Answer 3

Why is this any different than anything else a kid wants but cannot have?

How do you get over it?  Learn that your life ahead will be full of siutations like this - how do you get what you need/want in life when it's within your control?

First, learn the difference between needs and wants - the food you eat, the clothes you wear, your medical needs are all NEEDS.  Certain clothes, certain food, things you don't have to have to live are WANTS.

Do you have everything you need in life?  If not, focus on those first - when you're older you'll need to learn how to manage your time and money to get the things you need first.  A place to live, food to eat, clothes on your back, a car or vehicle or a way to work.....These things and paying your bills on time come first and foremost.  No matter what shape the dog you find or horse you find is in, you must come first because if you can't live, you can't support anything else.  If you lose it all, where is the animal or person you saved when you go down?

After you've learned this concept, you must start setting some goals.  Each and every day set little - sometimes even silly goals.  What is there about yourself that isn't what you want it to be?  are you too fat, too skinny, what is it about yourself that you'd like to make better - focus on the things inside yourself, not the image others have of you.  It doesn't matter what other people think of you, what matters is how you feel about yourself.  Are you a good person, would someone want to be your friend?

Set goals to make these things about yourself better.  You will learn from this how to set and monitor your goals.

You type well, you speak well, so you obviously don't need to learn those things better...

Later on in life, you will set goals - you will find yourself in the position of possibly being able to have a horse - but you will only succeed if you are responsible.

My parents taught me - if it's worth doing it's worth doing well.  My grandfather was well known as an honest-hard working business man in our community.  My father was a hard working, honest public servant - these people taught me that it's not what you have for material things that make you important, it's the stuff inside that makes you strong, good or successful.  If you have the right ethics, the right morals, and the right goals, the rest of the neat stuff comes your way - all that material stuff.

Now I'm 41.  I own 6 horses of my own, a truck, a nice new trailer and a car.  I have a job, a large degree from a college - because I had, and continue to have goals and be as responsible as I can be.  Each day I think of someone I respect and try to figure out why I respect that person and I try to be respectful.  I have figured out what makes me successful - and it's not what other's think - it's what I think.

Do these things, and you don't ever have to "get over it" because you know what you can control in your life, what you can't control and why.

Answer 4

OK, well I had a horse for two months and loved her to death. We had big plans together and that I was going to purchase her. But come the vet check... she has arthritis in her front pastern bone and will not be good for riding in a couple of months. I had half a year left with mzy love but we could not afford to keep a horse that could be lame any minute. I toughed up. I love her and miss her. Missing a horse is another way of loving it. I think of her all the time and pray for her and hope that she is being treated well.

Answer 5

I was leasing a pony named Friv. He was 5 and I was re-training him. I got him really good. We were considering buying him, and then another girl came him and would whip him in the face if he shifted his weight in the tack stall. He devolped a bucking problem so my parents would not buy him. He was sold to another person. I missed him and will always love him, but time slowly heals.

Answer 6

dont get a animal if you cant afford to take care of it which includes vet care but if you suspect abuse  call the spca in the local area

Answer 7

Yes, several years ago I was offered the horse that I was riding at the school. I had the money to buy him too but could not find anywhere close by that was actually decent to keep him ( he's a big horse) so I had to say no. They sold him to someone else and I was in tears and very nearly gave up riding - I'm so glad that I didn't because in a weird twist of fate a couple of years later I ended up exercising him for the people who bought him.

So yes, I do know how you feel.