Ughh , mother daughter questions/concerns ...?

Question

first of all i am 15 year old girl on her way to high school and ..

1. i feel as if my mom is always up in my buisness , i hate it . why does she do this ?

2. she says that SHE is not ready for me to date ? like wth is that bull , can i make my own decisions when i feel IM ready ?

3. okay girls its summer , what more do girls want then to hang out with her friends ? my mom nags me telling me to come home , so of course i do , then after i am home sitting in the house for up to 4 days i ask her to go out and sleepover somewhere and she is like umm why you are never home .. so no no no ,

4. i want her to just let me GROW UP , and she doesnt let me do anything ! like i am a good kid and she knows it , but she says "oh your only 15" blah blah , why wont she just let me be ?

Answer 1

Hun she is your mom and she loves you.. there are plenty of other girls out there that dont have that, my step-daughter is like my daughter her mother only thinks of herself so be thankful that she is like she is ok.

Maybe you should have a calm conversation with her dont raise your voice and when she says something to make you really mad, count to 10 and try calmly to tell her what your views are and try and come to a compromise... you never know it may work.... as an alternative try day time dating for now...

Best of luck  

Answer 2

Do you know the movie , "Sound of Music"?

where there is a song a bout a girl 15 going on 16 , singing to her boyfriend in the gazebo?

kinda sounds like you only your mother doing this song.As a mother I too know how important it is to want to protect her daughter from dangers.

Seems she is too protective with some of her things, but you need to lighten up and be kind to her it's called brownie points and they work.

Ask her how she spent her summers when she was your age and how her mom and her got along, was she forceful to your mother and did she like that treatment. Get her to understand how she felt when her mother didn't make her feel accepted as a mature teen.