Uh, wat duz this mean?

Question

mk, my names kaylie & 4 mo.s ago my mom married my stepdad. he is really close 2 me & i consider him a really good friend. well, like a week ago, we talked about how long we've known eachother. he sed that he considered me an individual, & pointed out how he talked 2 me as i was not a child, but like a friend. then he sed that he felt strongly bout me. then he sed that things he says arent sexual, but if he wanted 2 say something 2 me then he would in the open. he is 59. my family has known his 4 a long time, & mostly theyre not right .... mentally. altho, his dad & he were born normal. he tells me that he would do anything i wanted 2. and that he would nevr cheat on my mom, except 1 exception. w/o knowing him, its hard 2 determine, but how is he talking 2 me? i dont really get it. he sed he would nevr force me 2 do anything i ddnt want 2 do. & i believe that he wont, but wat duz he mean 2 say 2 me? my mother is very hard 2 talk 2. he ses that he can talk 2 me easilier than her & that he is closer 2 me than her. i dont want my mom or jim 2 b single agin, & i d k if he duz, but i really am getting 2 b uncomfortable & i dont like saying this 2 him cuz i usually would, but i dont like me 2 b closer 2 my moms husband than my mom is.... idk wat i should do. maybe if i dont wanna say anything then i should just go bak 2 alabama w/my sister? or georgia w/my other sister? i really dont want2 but im very uncomfrtable.

Answer 1

I understand this makes you uncomfortable and that you don't find it easy to talk to your mom, but if you were my daughter I would want you to tell me this.

It sounds like he is a pervert and the furthest thing from normal. I think he was trying to drop hints that he is attracted to you but was also making an attempt to hide what he was trying to communicate to you. I suggest that you try and get him to talk to you again, record the conversation (but don't make it obvious that you are recording it) then play it back to your mom.

Please watch yourself and don't get into a situation where you are alone with him because then it's his word against yours.

  

Answer 2

a lot of times older emn will creep out younger girls b/c we've heard scary stories about them you know, being attratced to young girls and molesting and so on.....at first it seems him concidering u an individual ans etc. was him trying to mak eyou like him since they got married and he's gonna be a part of ur life now......but as you wen ton into dteail, well, it sounded like the things he was saying crossed that line. its like well, he sounds like he wanted you sexually form the way you wrote it, and he should not be closer to you than his wife!!!!!  maybe he's confused and is getting attratced to u since hes being around you mor enow and he feels not "kin" to you and maybe he and ur mom are having problems, try your best to tell ur mom whats going on and if she dosnet listen maybe you should move if its wht you want...

Answer 3

it sounds like your very confused and you don't know what to do.  You don't to make either one unhappy.  Just look into your heart, you will find what you want to do.  I wish you luck Kaylie

                          Good Luck,

                                     Heschoharie

Answer 4

1. sounds lkike he wants to violate you

2. learn how to spell

3.if he does anyhting to you, call the police

Answer 5

I know where you are coming from. My mom's husband kinda makes me feel the same way. He gives me longer hugs than I think they should be and other little things that make me wonder. My advice is to say something to him. Tell him that you love him as a dad and when he talks like that it doesn't feel right. Ask him if he would talk that way if you were his flesh and blood. If you let it go it does get worst.

Answer 6

i am glad he consideres you an individual

Answer 7

wow, that is a kind of awkward situation. the things that he is saying to you are really not appropriate and some of the things he implies are also kind of sexual. i think that you should confront him about this and let him know that you are not comfortable what he is saying and implying to you. let your mom know that your uncomfortable, just say i need to speak to and its important lets make a special time this week  to have a mother daughter day. make sure she knows that this is VERY important to you and its not just something little you want to do. moving is a choice but you shouldn't move over this situation unless it gets worse and or your mom doesn't believe or want to help you fix this. but if that is the way you feel about it and moving is the only way you feel good then i think you shoudl do what feels right and move with  your sisters. good luck with your situtaion. hope you make the right decision. all i can say is that do NOT let this continue on. it will become worse.

Answer 8

Stay away from him.

Tell your mom everything that you told us.

I think it would be a good idea if you kept your distance from him.

good luck

Answer 9

stay away from your step dad! SEEMS LIKE HE HAS A BAD MOTIVE...BE VERY CAREFUL HUNny

Answer 10

girl there is something funky going on in your house! i think jim might be wanting to ( i replace bad words with different letters) have hex u or ur mom or maybe he doesnt like ur mom OR! he meight want a divorce then take u and leave ur mom nd get remarried!! idk but all i know is thats my opnian girl so good luck with that new stepdad but watch out!

Answer 11

I would remove yourself from the situation ASAP, if going to live with your sister is an option, I would do that.

Answer 12

well i think you should talk to your mom!!!!!

or you should move with one of your sisters!!!!!

Answer 13

Is he asking you to be sexual with him?  that's inappropriate, and illegal.  He knows it.  You need to talk to your mom about it, and if she won't listen, as you said, you need to talk to a school counselor or report it to the police.  If he's doing it to you, he's probably doing it to other young girls like you.  You wouldn't want other girls to have to go through something like that, would you?  No you wouldn't.

Answer 14

definatley talk to someone. tell your mom. or your sisters.

Answer 15

Wow since you said 2 instead of to i realized how many times you said to....2

maybe you could do someting to make your mom and im closer. or push him away so he wil get closer too your mom.        

Answer 16

This guy is a sleaze, tell him you're uncomfortable if he starts another similar conversation. If he doesn't take the hint stay as far away as you can.

This may not end well and you will have to be prepared to report his behavior, especially if you aren't the only possible target.

I dont know if you're 15 or 25?  ... but if this idiot is hitting on a 15 year old ( or younger ) you've got to tell someone. Most states have a sexual offense registry and this should be checked as well as his criminal background.

Be safe!

Answer 17

He sounds a bit creepy. Just avoid him for a while or go back to ALABAMA with your sister. ALABAMAAAAAAAA.

SWEET HOME ALABAMAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

Answer 18

If anything you should say something to your mother. You should be honest with her about what he's implying to you, and she should know the type of man she's married to.