Uh oh... what would u do if in this situation?

Question

One of my b/f's bestfriends introduced me to this lady a few months ago. He was "seeing" her. I immediatly took a liking to her. However, I've only spoken w/ her 4-5 times when he comes around to see my b/f. We usually hit it off though... you know.

So a few weeks ago his bestfriend has his son and mother of his son come in from out of state and they stayed w/ him. She actually got a tattoo just like his on her arm and they were talking about getting married! I'm thinking... what about the other one?

Well, the other knew she came in from out of town to stay and was told by my b/f's bestfriend to keep her distance b/c, although they were not dating, she didn't want to make his baby's momma feel uncomfortable.

I just discovered this piece of info this even when he came over w/ girl #1 tonight... from her. I was thinking OMG... this guy is lying. You know... now she's w/ him - while the other girl who is getting married to him is out of state.

Should I tell girl # 1?

Answer 1

Try to let her know anonymously, or arrange things in a way that she finds out by herself.

Eventually she will know anyway, if they get married, and there will be drama. And you probably won't see this woman again. Please think deeply whether it is worth ruining your b/f's friendship with this guy by causing the drama earlier on.

Answer 2

what just happened

Answer 3

First, if she is really jealous over numbers, she already knows that is why she is insecure.  Don't get involved.  It will only come back to haunt you one way or another.  If she knows that he already has a kid, then she knows that him and that woman share a connection that she is never going to be able to break, that also probably makes her feel insecure.  

Let it work itself out and you concentrate on your own business.  I would let your friend, the one that keeps bringing this mess around you know that all the parties involved need to stay away from you until this man figures out what he is going to do.

Answer 4

It is not fair on you being in this situation.  Nor is it fair for your boyfriend to ask you to keep quiet!

If it was me i would say something.  I would like to know what was going on and as you dont know either of them very well you wont get called a stirrer!!!

Answer 5

d**n my head is spinning.

Answer 6

I think we just got played, but I'm not sure..to hard to figure that mess out!

Answer 7

thats whats wrong wit women today we wont tell what needs to be told weather it hurts or not **** you would want someone to tell you oh my why would you let him hurt these women like that oh my hane you ever seen snapped are women need to stick together she might get mad but she will thank you in the end i would oh my what if that was you oh my how do you sleep ay night holding all that info.........you make the right choice before someone gets hurt by this man you ask youreself is it worth not telling those women what if they meet by accident and fight and someone gets hurt  oh my do whats right please expose him he aint right if he loved either one he would not be doing this at all trust that  do it now stop him soon ....

Answer 8

Well it would really depend on how long you have known your b/f's friend for.. and how close you are with girl #1...If your close with her and worried about her feelings then i guess i might tell her but If i was in the middle of a situation like that then I think I would just stay out of it especially if i didn't know her for that long..it might end up causing drama between your b/f and his friend... see idk this is a tough one forreal ... like i said just depends on how close you are with both of them..hopefully that made some sense and helped a little : )