Uhm plz dnt judge me ppl:( help??

Question

okay this has become my addiction:( so help plz i do self harm almost every week, my parents do know that i cut but they dnt knw that i still do it its getting worse & worse i mean from a shapener blade to a pocket knife and den a exacto knife...i really dnt knw what to do.my fwends knw but they dont understand,they keep tryn 2 blackmail me & they want 2 tell my parents...it has happend many times before..i really need help i dnt need ur pity so pls dnt say im Doin it 4 attention & all that stuff...the reason coz i cut is because my parents r separated & my dad is in South Africa & im in New Zealand i hardly see my dad or talk 2 him:( i really miss him...i cnt even visit him & everytime i want 2 stay by him or talk 2 him my mum gives me this lectures and then it turns out 2 be a fight

im truely sorry about my spellin &typn<<i use 2 much slang sowee

Thank you Ppl if url do help me:)

Answer 1

I really want to help you,

so much.

I would do every thing in my power if I could.

I feel for you, I really do and I hope that you can take the step to getting better!

You should call a confidental hotline or speak to a doctor or health teacher, these people are TRAINED to help people who are harming themselves or going through a tough time.

Doctors can offer courses, annonymous most of the time - which help you deal with what&#039;s happening and improve your condition.

Please, don&#039;t be afraid of your family finding out what&#039;s happening, if your friends are saying that they&#039;ll tell your parents then your parents are really, your only real source of support.

xxxlove &amp; light

Answer 2

I know where you&#039;re coming from, I do it. I&#039;m getting help for it now though as I have realised that it isn&#039;t the way for me to live. I can&#039;t even wear skirts above the knees now and I hate it. If you are asking us for help I would suggest seeing your doctor, they may be able to refer you on to someone else who can help more actively.

I am now seeing a care worker once a week and he helps me, and gives me tips for dealing with ways to cope, and other options on what to do instead of self-harm.

It isn&#039;t healthy, but I understand how addictive it is. You need to do something about it honey, and you need to do it now before you&#039;re doing it every day/night like I was. I still feel the need to but I now have other ways to deal with my emotions and needs.

I hope you are okay honey, I really do (and that isn&#039;t pity, it&#039;s empathy)  

Answer 3

1st of all STOP doing it

2nd it won&#039;t solve a thing, it will only make matters worse

3rd talk to your dad without your mom knowing and ask him if you can live with him and see how it goes from there.

i used to cut myself, a lot, and i took a tripp to the hospital for my mom and rest of my family to find out what i was doing.

the whole therapy, medication, counseling didn&#039;t work for me. years later i realized that cutting wasn&#039;t helping me with anything and i stopped.

now i have a son and i don&#039;t know what i will tell him when he&#039;ll start asking &quot;where did you get those marks mommy?&quot;

you have to think long term here.

and if you really want to stay close to both your parents than you have to find a safer way to get through to them.

and don&#039;t think i don&#039;t know what you are talking about because my parents are also divorced...

i hope you&#039;ll be able to find it in you to stop hurting your body.

hope everything will work out ok.  

Answer 4

hum...can&#039;t you just stop that habit of yours, i&#039;m telling this because i know when you parents get to know what your doing, they will get extremely worried about you, specially your dad. I understand why you&#039;re doing that, and I also understand you&#039;re friends who were blackmailing you,for me, they&#039;re just doing that because they care about you, about your health, because cutting is not a solution with that problem.

For me this is what you need to do, express to your mom and show to her that you really miss your dad, show to her in a nice and good way and hope that your mom will feel it and will push her to give you and your dad a communication.

And my advice is you must be spiritually strong,

always pray for your dad that he&#039;ll be ok wherever he is and for your mom that she will understand you why you want to see your dad.

Explain to her your side and hope that she will understand you positively.

And girl, always think positive!&#039;

Good luck! Take care!

Answer 5

Wow.

I have a friend who&#039;s going through the same thing. Meaning the parent issue and the cutting. I took her to the school counselor and when she talked about it she felt that it wasn&#039;t right. I think you should do the same. It&#039;s confidential and will help you a lot. Maybe you should talk to you mom so your dad could come and visit. I&#039;m sure he will.