Um . ok now ive got attention. Ive beenwith my fiance for 8 years. we are christians we are engaged three year

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um . ok now ive got attention. Ive beenwith my fiance for 8 years. we are christians we are engaged three years.We have lived togeather for six months. We are getting married july 27th . we are abstaining from s*x. is this bad for our christian testimony should i move out? am i goin to h**l?

im 22. and im trying to be a good example. by being a christian ive actually helped a lot of people. this is my only point of contention with regards to the faith

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about all the posts :i want a wide audience to draw from and then im gonna count up answers and form an opinion. i dont wanna draw from a small pool of answers. this is kinda importnant i do this with most of my questions.

Answer 1

No, your not going to h**l. God is very mercyful & forgiving if you ask him for it.

Answer 2

Follow your heart-keep trying to be the best you can and all things come to those who deserve it.

Answer 3

If you are living together, why not get married now?  If the wedding planned for July is a big white lace and promises shindig, there is no reason you cannot go ahead with those plans, but get married at city hall if it would absolve some of the guilt you are feeling.

If moving back home with your parents would make you feel better, do that.  It would be a lot easier  to continue to abstain if you are not living together.

Don't give up your faith.

Answer 4

i dont think anyone answering on here can correctly tell you if your going to h**l or not. that is no humans knowledge. only Gods. if you feel guilty about your  situation, change the situation, or stop feeling guilty.

Answer 5

For a christian, you seem extremely mean-spirited, calling someone dumb just because they have a different opinion. She was just trying to help, how was she supposed to know your life story?

Answer 6

Have you ever thought about abandoning your religion but embracing your own spirituality?  You don't have to have organized religion to have faith, or salvation.  Your spiritual relationship to God is between you and He.  Be wary of those who tell you that their way is the only way, or that their way is God's way.  What divides, what judges, is not God's way.  It's misleading.  

You're not going to h**l.  God loves you.

Answer 7

No such thing as h**l.

8 Years ? Never had s*x ? Wow....

Answer 8

Ok so first i'll point out that I'm an atheist, so you can take this with whatever sized grain of salt you want.

Congrats on abstaining, thats quite hard to do.

It's going to be a denomiational thing as to what you've testified to do, and what commitments you've made within your faith. Most Christian denominations frown on co-habitating out of wedlock - but if you examine that in the original context - where women were sold through a dowry process to become men's property - that's just cos they're worried you'd engage in nookie outside of a dowry contract situation and lose your value as a piece of property which could then in tern incite wraith and envy and all sorts of deadly sins.

I think that living together and abstaining from s*x is admirable and if anything probably a greater display and test of your faith than living seperatly and abstaining.

I don't think you should feel guilty for living with the person you love. You've already made a spiritual commitment to your partner and in some people's eyes that's as good if not better than a marriage.

It's a cultural thing at the end of the day. There was a time when all current Christian denominations would have been shocked and told you you were going to h**l simply for kissing or holding hands out of wedlock. I'd use that as a bit of perspective.