Um some advice please (embarresing)?

Question

Hi, erm. Basically i want to know the basics

I am 14 and done nothing so any tips on:

Kissing, BJ's & what do boys like in terms of flirting?

If you dont want to tell me publicly, mail me

Answer 1

if you're gonna blow ya man, just go deep and look at him while doing it.

Answer 2

do you even know what a ******** is???? lol...or even how to do it???

Answer 3

You shouldn't even be worrying about that stuff at your age.  You're still just a child and definitely have no business giving blow jobs (BJ's)

Answer 4

Kissing

http://www.wikihow.com/Kiss

Flirting Tips

Women are so much more subtle about flirting clues that men need to really pay attention. Ladies, men are not used to women flirting with them. An overwhelming majority of men said they would just love it if a woman would talk to them first or at least express a larger clue that you were interested in checking them out.

#1: Repeated contact...at least three separate verbal or non-verbal clues need to be given. Why? The first time he's going to look around and make sure it's really him that you are flirting with. The second, he knows it's him and he gets flushed and pleased. (At this point he'll probably walk by you and at least smile..he's checking you out a little more.) The third time you can express interest-by introducing yourself, or commenting on his tie, or waving from across the room. Now he knows you are open to meeting and it will be a cinch.

#2: Whisper...it always gets their attention. Ask them if you can tell them a secret...Then whisper in their ear: 'I just love your tie...can I buy it from you when you are done with it?'

#3: Don't sit with other women...men don't want you to reject them in front of an audience. If you do go out with a friend...separate every so often or take a breather from talking...men do not want to risk your disapproval by interrupting you. (You have already missed out on a lot of quality polite men who didn't want to interrupt.)

#4: Treat men gently...If someone you are not interested in approaches you and flirts ...be nice.... All the other men are watching to see what you do. If you laugh after he leaves or show visual disapproval, you are cutting your chances on anyone else approaching you. Try shaking his hand and saying something like: 'It was so nice of you to approach me...what's your name? Tom? Tom, I know how hard it is to meet people...I might have a girlfriend who would be interested in you.'

#5: IF he acts like a JERK! Be polite but firm. Hand him a copy of the men's version of 'Flirting with Greatness' and ask him to go practice on someone else. Firmly say that 'lines' with sexual overtones are not only not attractive to you but to most other women in the world.

#6: Use the Buddy system. Walk through a group of men and have someone watch to see who's checking you out.

#7: Become More Irresistible! Show a little leg....wear higher heels...the redder the lipstick the more available and noticeable you will be. Arch your back a little as you sit up tall and cross your legs high. Wear earrings that are interesting enough to make someone comment on them.

#8: Look over your shoulder...and smile at him. This asymmetrical position is always a signal you are interested.

#9: Give him a look all over from head to toe - nod with approval and then flash him your most winning smile.

#10: Remember that flirting is a way of connecting from the heart and acknowledging someone. Be generous! Have Fun!

As for oral s*x. You do not even need to think about that as you are not ready. I know this from my own teen hood and my 3 sons are now 17-23.

Answer 5

What boys find "cute" and "attractive" when it comes to flirting really depends on the guy.

Personally, I think kissing and making out are enjoyable. However, I'll be the first one to tell you that my first kiss was pretty awkward. Before things got a little carried away, I had looked up "how to kiss", "how to makeout", etcetera on the internet, but when the time came, I was trying to hard. Just go with the flow.. and as you kiss/makeout more, you will begin to experiment and make it fun.

Blow jobs, also known as blow jobs, is a form of oral s*x performed on a guy. Oral s*x for girls would be known as "Going down" and "Eating Out". However, I don't advise either for you at your age. In all honesty, I've learned that with s*x, and being sexual in general, comes responsibility. Don't get me wrong, I'm not preaching abstinence, because I don't have the right, but it would be a shame for you to do something you might regret later.

Check out this site:

http://www.scarleteen.com

It has great advice and answers about s*x, health, relationships, and many other day-to-day questions and concerns.

Answer 6

I know this is going to sound stupid but,

you should wait.

Kissing okay but, I'd stop anywhere else.

I didn't wait and I regret it every single day.

You'll feel better in the long run.

If you still want to,

learning from experience is the best way.

Answer 7

Kissing and making out are enjoyable and nice. You should always have chapstick on and eat something sweet before or like a mint.

As for BJs, not a good idea. Please don't do it especially if you're 14. I made the mistake of doing it at 14 and was an emotional wreck afterwards.

Answer 8

uhm, you shouldn't be doing BJ'S at your age.

Answer 9

Yeah... what the first guy said

Answer 10

Kissing: Okay don't use too much tongue and make sure your lips are moist [not wet, not dry].

BJs: DON'T USE TEETH! [I've had friends who did it like that and I heard **** from their boyfriends.]

As far as flirting goes, don't be TOO giggly, he might think you're weird. Boys like it when you play with their hair or rub their heads [the ones on their shoulders...]

Answer 11

Don't do BJ's.  You can get STD's even from just doing that.  As for kissing, it will come naturally.  There are no basics.  Just relax, and it will happen.

Answer 12

BJ?!?!?! *cough*cough*s**t*cough*cough*

What the first person said