Ummmmmmmmmm how weird is this???? Please help, 10 points for best answer?

Question

So I went to a rock summer camp for 2 weeks. There's a regular program, which this guy is in.

He came in at the end of the day to practice with the people in the regular program last week, so I ended up talking to him a little and flirting, but then he left and I didn't see him until the next, until the final concert we had.

At that point he got my number and I got his at the end of the concert. He came in for the last day of camp because I asked if he wanted to jam a little, and so we ended up flirting, and he kept hugging me which was sweet, but I barely knew him.

We now text a lot. But I'm just wondering, I've barely known him for a week, and we seem to be hitting things off. Is this normal?

I'm 14, he's 16, we go to different schools. I've just never really had a real relationship, so I have no idea what's considered normal or not...

Answer 1

he is going a bit fast but it looks like you guys are off with a great start, and dont do anything too hasty with him.

Answer 2

It is not weird at all.  Just go with the flo and see what happens.  Who knows maybe you'll turn out to be really good friends or maybe even form a band together or maybe you'll have a great relationship.  What is normal to you may not be normal to someone else.  It is all in how YOU perceive things to be normal that is what normal is.  Don't worry about it. Go with the flo and take things as they come.  The more  you worry about things that are not in your control the more uncomfortable you will see things and that's usually when things start to be more complicated than needed.  good luck!

Answer 3

I REMEMBER BEING YOUNG AND LIKING OLDER GUYS, THEN GETTING OLDER AND REALIZING THEY WERE NOT SO MUCH OLDER. I STARTED OFF SIMILAR WITH MY BABY'S FATHER. HE WAS MY BROTHERS BEST FRIEND I MET HIM WHEN I WAS 11, WE KEPT IT A SECRET FOR YEARS, WE WOULD TALK ON THE PHONE AND SNEAK TO HIDE AND TALK TOGETHER. NOW IM 21 HE'S 24 AND WE HAVE A 2 YEAR OLD. HE DIDNT RUSH ME, THATS HOW I KNEW HE CARED. SO JUST TAKE IT AT A COMFY PACE FOR YOU, AND YOU NEVER KNOW IT COULD BE FOREVER, OR IT COULD BE FOR TOMORROW

Answer 4

Sounds to me like you made a real connection with some things in common.  You admit to flirting with him, so maybe he picked up on the signals that you were interested and is reciprocating.  Keep it cool and see what happens.  Just because you go to different schools doesn't mean a dating relationship couldn't happen.

Answer 5

Yea thats normal. It seems that he likes you. But if u think things are going to fast or something just talk to him like a friend. If you like him keep flirting and maybe he will ask you out.

Answer 6

Not weird at all.Picture a 35 year old dating a 32 year old.Whats so weird.

Answer 7

ya thats totally normal hes into u! dont question it or over think it just go with it! age doesn't mean anything so dont think it does. if he like you he likes you. lol so go ahead flirt!

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Answer 8

Lol, it's really sweet and it's okay that you hit things off quickly, this could be it if you haven't had a relationship before.

Good Luck =)

Answer 9

With all do respect. You are both babies. 16 and 14 are not ages to be flirting. Puppy luv if fine if that is what you guys are doing... It's not weird to hit things off so fast when your trying to GET LAID!!! If I were you I would join a nunnery until I was 18. You sound like a girl that is going to get knocked up at 16 and ruin her life. Be careful!

Answer 10

I think it's because he really likes you and if you want give him a chance you should, but if he starts get a little more weird you might wanna back off and Fast,but I think the best possible solution is to do what you think is right :)

Have a Blessed Day.

Answer 11

It sounds like him and you are taking things slow so what's wrong with that? You say you barely know him and can I ask how else would he got to know you unless he keeps in contact? What would be far worse would be if you to slept together and found out that you two didn't really like each other right? Keep things simple for right now and text or do whatever to keep in touch and later go out on a few dates. I am seeing someone right now myself, him and me have gone on many dates to the movies and out to dinner together and are building a pretty nice friendship. I'm not sure it will ever go further or not? But even having a good friend is nice right? And nobody says that you there has to be more until your ready. If he isn't a guy that's just looking for s*x, he will stay with you no matter what and won't put pressure on you to have s*x and if you start feeling you are being pressured and aren't ready it's time to tell him to back off or go!  

Answer 12

Yeah i think that's normal, i mean you're 14 and he obviously likes you. I'm 15, and that doesn't sound at all weird to me :)  

Answer 13

It's about as weird as using 10+ "m"s for the word "umm".

Anyways, thats a bit of an age gap, but talk to your parents and make sure they're ok with it. But typically people try and stay with their own age groups...

Answer 14

he's rushing things, maybe he's scared to lose you or something i dunno

Answer 15

okay I'm 17 ... so I know the position you are in ... I would say that you guys defiantly have some chemistry ... but your in the flirting stage ... don't let yourself think that just because he is being really nice and cute and texing you alot hes in love with you ... I'm not sure if that's what you think or not but in some cases like this girl get their heart broken especially when they are young and this is their first real relationship ... now also keep in mind that hes 2 years older than you and its a long distance relationship ... what your feeling is normal ... relationships are never "normal" they are complicated and fun at the same time ... texting is a great way to get to know someone because you can say thing that you may have not been able to say face to face and ask questions and such ... but make sure you talk on the phone alot also ... because communication is key ... good luck .... And from my stand point as a fellow teenage girl everything in this relationship is normal just be safe ...ohh and I would really appreciate if you picked me for best answer thank you :^P

Answer 16

Aw cute story, yeah keep talking to him, seems like a nice guy who knows maybe your ment for each other.

Answer 17

Most guys get into music because they wanna "get with chicks" I think that him hugging you was a little too much at this point. He may not be the one for you. Don't allow him to take anymore advantage of you. He'll like you more for it later.  

Answer 18

if you like him a lot what does it matter if its normal or nuts

Answer 19

well try it but relashionships never work well when u dont go to the same school.. but of corse ur normal..

Answer 20

Hello,

It's perfectly normal.

You are only 2 year difference.

And you have a super duper crush, a lot of boy friend girlfriends go to different schools.

Just make to see each other a lot.

Take care and good luck

Answer 21

its normal and i'd say he likes u

Answer 22

it's only a 2 year age gap, but when you're in school it seems a lot more than when you're older.

A lot of my friends have had boys that are older, because a lot of the time they're more mature, boys at 14 and 15 can be really immature, at 16 they seem to start growing out of that but it can vary.

Get to know him a bit more, and if you like him then why not?

just be careful, it might sound stereotypical but a lot of boys only want one thing...

So like I said, get to know him some more, but if he lives far away it could become difficult, just judge it on how you feel after a while, it's only got to do with you and him so don't let other people judge you.

It can be easier that he's going to another school because then you're seeing him everyday can become a bit too much sometimes

hope that helps

x

Answer 23

Well, he hasn't asked you out, so just start things off slow.  

Answer 24

yes, flirting with some one you barely know is totally normal! keep talking to him and see where things go!

Answer 25

It is normal.  It sounds to me like you made a new friend.  If you like texting him, then keep doing it.  If he ever asks you to do something you don't want to or makes you feel uncomfortable, then stop.  It sounds like a friendship, not a relationship.