Un-earthing a loved one for the last time?

Question

I had asked a question earlier on here concerning a family member who passed recently. I was upset and a couple of people advised me to attend the services nevertheless because I would regret it. Anyway, it was that statement that brought up a discussion that mom and I had a few days ago concerning my father who died 5 years ago.

I went to his funeral but it was like I looked but I didn't "really" look at my father(like a glance) becuase I was too young, upset and in shock at the time. Even to this day, I feel guilty about not going to his wake because I didn't get a chance to spend my last moments with him or crying over him while in private.

So my mom brought up an idea to me because we both miss him. The cemetery where he is buried actually un-earths the loved one upon your request(as odd as that may sound). Anyway, after mom takes care of the business concerning my late grandmother, she is going to talk to the person over the cemetery because we both would like that one last look at him that we didn't get a chance to see because we were too upset. Would this idea of seeing my father again lay my guilt to rest?

And for the people who answered my previous question, thank you all for the advice.

Answer 1

No. Not for you to view. Listen. To say goodbye does not mean you need to see Dad. Say goodbye in any way you can. Write to him, speak with him, do what you need to. The time to view is gone.  

Answer 2

Dear please look up the word "decomposition" before you make that decision.  Your last look might be rather gruesome.

Answer 3

I personally don't think a body that has been layed to rest should be disturbed. As for you guilt I think you may be dissappointed because it may just start the grieving process all over agian. Hes always watching over you and if you talk to him he hears you. I am truly sorry for your loss I just don't think bringing him up is going to help you. Maybe consider grief consuling or somthing like that?

Answer 4

Babe, I really wouldn't reccomend digging him up. As Suzy said, he's probably really decomposed. Why not hold a memorial service for him with your family instead to help get some closure? Good luck hun, I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 5

If you unearth your father, you better be prepared for what you might see.  You may opt to be hypnotized into re-visiting in your mind what your father's last appearance or your last encounter of him was.  Or try seeking guidance from a counselor or physiologist.