Uncaring People?

Question

Is it just me or is it as Society as we know it just don't care about anyone else or their immediate family?

If you saw someone broken down on the side of a road would you help them fix their car?

If you saw an elderly lady fallen over would you help them up? Any person in fact?

If someone dropped something right in front of you, say papers which are flying everywhere, would you help that person pick them up?

If someone was walking along and their fly was undone, would you tell them?

How about if they had food on their face?

I've seen all of these things happen and no-one ever bothers to stop and help.

Which is why it begs the question, do people really care? Please don't answer this question saying you would help them if you don't mean it. I've heard of lots of people say that they would but when placed in that situation they wouldn't bat an eyelid.

Answer 1

I help people when I can.  But I know what you mean about uncaring.  There's a newspaper spinoff website I go on and people can be kind of unpaid reporters and send in photos of things they've witnessed around the city.  The other day this guy put this photo on of a young guy who was passed out through drink and he'd collapsed on the grassy central reservation of the road, half on the verge and half on the road.  His girlfriend was with him but obviously couldn't pick him up and the guy who took the photo said something like 'look what I saw driving past at 2am'

You can put comments, so I said 'what kind of person drives past and can only think of taking a photo to put on a website and doesn't even consider helping her pick him up and take him to safety'

Drives me crazy when people are so ignorant like that.

Answer 2

I have theory .

I think there is a lot of chatting on the internet, because people are too mistrusting of people in person--one on one. Yet, we need  each other.

A severe weather condition struck my city in 2007.  My friends on my discussion board, got together and sent me $600 to help me out.

None of my co workers, friends nor family sent me a dime.  My brother didnt even call.   Moreover, I did not expect anyone to do anything.

They "just did" because they wanted to help.  

Ive never been so beyond tears in all my life.

I got a card with a check, and I just sat here stunned ! I couldnt even cry.  Wasnt the money, it was the caring.

It still happens. Its rare tho.

Answer 3

i completely agree with you....people just dont care anymore.

I hit a deer a couple months ago and had to pull over on the side of the road.. my window was smashed and door pushed in. Not ONE person stopped to see if i was okay. I was scared and luckily not hurt. But weird thing was i wasn't upset that i hit the deer and F-ed up my car... i was upset that no one stopped or pulled over to see if everything was alright. I could have been dead in my car for hours before anyone came to see.

I understand people are cautious because they dont want to be taken advantage of or put in a dangerous situation.

I believe in the golden rule "treat people how you want to be treated" its common sense. Hold the door a little longer for someone or wait the 2 seconds to let someone pass you in the car.

Answer 4

Some people nowadays have this pride, if you help an old lady up especially if she's fit, she might get offended that you think she can't stand up by herself.  If you tell someone about their fly, food on their face, they maybe imbarrassed and you hurt their pride, I know I would be.

I'd only stop to help someone fix their car if they were looking around, if not they're probably waiting for roadside assistance from the insurance company or something.

Answer 5

really depends. if they actually needed help i'd help but if they had food on their face i would laugh

Answer 6

I only look out for me in this world.

Answer 7

i would help someone if they dropped something or fell over. i wouldn't know how to fix a car though lol. food on the face? hmmm. maybe, i don`t wait to embarrass them though lol.

but i personality, i think that everyone is a little self-centered and doesn`t bother to help. but there are a few people out there that are beautiful and honest and helpful.

Answer 8

yes, people care but unfortunately the media, news, movies, etc. have frightened us into thinking we will be raped or killed at any moment.

it does happen but i am always willing to lend a hand- i was raised in the 60's and given good morrals by my parents.  i intend to keep them and pass them on to my grandchildren.  too bad more people wouldn't care- keep the faith.

Answer 9

It's hard in this world you try to be kind and have it thrown back in your face also if you stop to help some one broken down on the side of the road you could get raped murder or bashed. I try to help people but some times out of fear I just can't

Answer 10

I don't mind helping people when I can.

However, you, presumably being a woman, and any woman for that matter, should not get out of your car to help someone broken down by the side of the road, especially if it's a man.

Today most people have cell phones and in many areas there are call boxes anyway. If you think the person has no access to either of these, you can call the highway patrol or state troopers to assist them.

Answer 11

I am a very straightforward person, so if someone had food on their face, or their fly was undone of course I would tell them. I would of course help someone who feel or whose papers flew everywhere, I was taught that was common courtesy, and it's a shame people aren't taught that anymore. As for the car i would try to call for help, because when it comes to cars I am clueless.

Answer 12

dunno where u live we aint like that here in our town we look after our old people and if someone need a hand they get it small communities are diffrent u know  yes i care

Answer 13

That is a tough one, I (think and would like to believe) that most people would help a fellow human being, except for the not so serious incidents(eg fly undone, food on the face). But that is just me I guess. I know I would help if I could.

Question is did you stop to help these people? If you did, then congrats to you as you are living by your convictions and your morels. Many of us should do like wise.

Answer 14

I think the majority of the uncaring types are those that reside in big cities. Small town and country folk are very helpful and nice in the midwest where I live, but if you go to Milwaukee, chicago, detroit, etc. and you need help you are on your own.

Answer 15

i would certainly help every situation u mentioned - except perhaps the broken down car....i've seen ppl use these situations to lure victims to them ( i watch csi & law & order lol!) so i would not endanger myself..if that makes sense

Answer 16

Naturally the first misconception is that people dont care about others - many do, but only in certain situations.

This problem is all about the issues caused by the diversity and freedom that we now have in society as a whole.  As people have mentioned indeed some people are self centered, but things like this arent totally their own doing. So many are brought up in fear of what may happen..

Some ignore through fear and just walk past, some laugh at others thinking they'll seem cool to their friends and whatever else.

The only way to make changes in this world unfortunately is to lead by example and put yourself in harms way as it were. When enough people see that its ok to care they will start to themselves.

People the world over are full of society born stereotypes. When these are broken down the world will be a much better place.

I try and lead by example, often suffering the insults of others - 5 minutes of laughing or a clean conscience? I know which I prefer.

Western society has perhaps given us more socal freedom than we deserve, everyone is different. Accepting that and still doing the right thing is one of the proudest achievents you'll ever have.

Answer 17

The bottom of a box I was carrying broke and my heavy books were being kicked and shoved out of the way.  On the road it's everyone for themselves and dangerous.

I try to help people if it's safe.  But the true heros are the ones that jump in without regard to their safety.  They're out there, people who care, and they make up for the others.