Underage drinking.. don't want to be involved.. suggestions?

Question

Ok so kind of random.. I was thinking at some point that i would like to visit my younger cousin at college with my bf... she is 18 and we are both 25 but have a good relationship with her. I have been out of college for over 2 years so i know what goes on and yes had my share of it hehe.. I haven't even brought up the idea of this to her because i'm so scared that their is the possibility i will be pressured into buying alcohol for everyone..I don't feel like going to jail haha.. should i even bring up the idea of visiting or not even bother?

Answer 1

Go with your bf to visit, and show her what a great time can be had without alcohol!

If she asks you to buy her or her friends something just say no.  But don't drink around them either.

Answer 2

If she does not mention it, don't mention alcohol at all.  If she does ask you, politely decline the request saying that she is underage and you wish to comply with the law, and tell her that you hope she understands your reasoning.   You can certainly go visit her, though and If you decide to go somewhere, go somewhere where they don't sell alcohol or where drinking is not the main focus of the place.

Answer 3

You should be upfront but casual.  You should call her to confirm your plans and then just mention "I'm really looking forward to coming over, but I won't be able to buy you any alcohol".  You will probably be able to tell from the tone of her voice if that was what she wanted from you.  I wouldn't risk it either if I were you.

Answer 4

I'm not understanding the crises here, though I understand that this is important to you, so I'm not blowing it off.  You go see her, if the subject of buying underage people alcohol comes up, you say no.  Why would there be a big issue with that?  If they keep pestering you about it, you leave.  If you have as great a relationship with her as you seem to, she should respect your boundaries and your reasonings.

Answer 5

You just say "No"

You can explain to them because it puts you in the position of getting in massive trouble with the law if you get caught and you just aren't going to take that risk.

Answer 6

Do you know your cousin has a drinking problem.. I know most students at university have one evening a week when they party.. and have disco music and probably drink alcohol.. but one can have fun without alcohol.. so maybe she doesn't have more than one alcoholic drink? Not everybody does.. Btw.. in Britain the problem of 15 year old teenagers who constantly go binge drinking is taking overhand.. it was on TV.. some of the girls all dress up.. and then come out of the put and really drop in the middle of the street and one girl at age 15 has not been to school for 1 year.. she buys a bottle of alcohol she somehow gets someone to buy it for her.. and she drinks the whole bottle in the evening and every morning she has a God almighty hangover so she won't get up of course and has missed school for an entire year.. she will leave school and not even graduate from High school...