Underage kids having kids?

Question

ok is it just me or is there something in the water because i have noticed that a lot of underage kids have been having babies

i think its insane i mean there just kids and there having babies i mean they are too young and some are dropping out of school and im not saying all do but some do

you have all your life to have s*x and start a family why would they want to do it so early i mean there so many things that they still need to discover

im not trying to make them seem like bad ppl but seriously what is it?

i understand they love there babies and stuff but for reals your still a child

in my town where i live i feel like the only person who hasnt had s*x or have a child?

i just dont understand why its been happening alot even celebrities like jamie lynn spears is it a new trend kids are following or can they just not control there hormones

please tell me what you think about young teens and children getting pregnant

Answer 1

When I was young you just couldn't get hold of contraceptives.  The risk of pregnancy was too great so you didn't take the risk.  Any unmarried mum was treated very badly by society so that was also an encouragement to keep s*x within marriage.  Result I married at the age of 23 - I was a virgin and so was my wife.

Answer 2

Theres always going to be underage people having kids due 2 accidents whether it be lost in the moment & forgot contraception right through 2 they were using condoms AND the pill & still got pregnant. Accidents happen.

Why were seeing more teen mums i dont know? Its nothing new though! We could blame it on not enough s*x ed at school? i know when i went 2 school i was only taught very briefly in year 7 & very briefly again in year 9. Whos knows maybe it will become a proper subject at school one day!

I had my son at 17 & age affected me none what so ever. I'm still with the dad whos also 17 & since the moment we seen 2 lines on the pregnancy tests we managed fine by ourselves & im a way better mum than some women twice my age!

Im now 20 trying for #2 & my beautiful boy is well advanced for his age too so i must of done something right =)

EDIT- Stop&Th...- You raise a valid point... but not all teen mums are bad! & in answer 2 what you had 2 say about me... I AM PROUD 2 have a son.... why the heck wouldn't i be!

Mum was the one that taught me about s*x & came with me 2 get the pill. What else was she 2 do? stick a chasity belt on me & keep me locked up? no she did what any other parent should do & taught me about SAFE s*x. We used a condom & i was on the pill & i still fell pregnant. what happened, happened & i couldnt be happier =)

i would like 2 add i breastfed my son for a year. my PARTNER owns his own scrap metal business & we are currently building a house.. Not bad for a TEEN mumma is it??? one day we'll get married... whats the rush! we've got our whole lives =)

Answer 3

ok you need to seriously get over it, you obviously have never been in these teens shoes before, so in the morning go to the mirror and as usual squeeze your pimples and realise your not perfect either.

people make mistakes, and your immature for saying these things about them.

Answer 4

wow! why does everyone have this stereo type about younger people having kids? Im 16 and pregnant and im truely tired of hearing people down size me and people in my situation! Its OUR choice! and no its not a trend! wow your totally clueless.

Im sorry but come on everyones not the same!

Answer 5

I don't think it is fair that many people assume that if your a young mum, your a bad mum!  Most of these pregnancies are unplanned but it doesn't mean that its necessarily wrong. If the person can stand up and take responsibility for their child then they shouldn't have to put up with the constant judgement. Also, everyone makes mistake. Some people make very different mistakes to others. Learning from our mistakes makes us grow and change. I want to point out that many people see a pregnant girl and think to themselves ''she should have kept her legs closed'' and I think this is very unfair. They didn't make that baby on their own now did they? I think society is much more accepting of young fathers than they are of the young mothers. I think a young mum only has to prove to her child that she can be a good mother. She doesn't have to proove anything to anyone else. I don't encourage teen pregnancy as it is a huge sacrifice and a hard job at any age, but I think we need to be more accepting. Back 50yrs ago, it was the normal thing for a woman to have a baby at 17. Think of it this way. I think your very sensible for choosing not to be sexually active yet. This is what you want for your own life and it's great that you can see the difference between yourself and what goes on around you. Maybe you can better educate your friends about safe s*x and the consequences of thinking ''it won't happen to me''

EDIT: stop and think : I find your cmments to be rather offensive. I suppose you are one of those people who are completely pro-life and are against abortions also? Perhaps you should seek help for that anger problem you clearly have and see how much of a rude and ignorant person you are!?

Answer 6

you know what it is people like you who make other people feel like c**p! what are you better then them are you! we are all equal! i am 17, engaged and trying for a baby! i have copped nothing but ****!! there is nothing in the water you fool! and it isnt cause we want to grow up so fast! everybody is different! i could never hang with ppl my own age cos they act like little kids! i am friends with ppl 20 and over! if it is what they want then so be it! member sweetheart legal age is 16! we cant help that you are so far immature and been sheltered your whole life!! i love my life and i wouldnt trade it for the world! my fiance he is magnificent! you have opinions like that? express them to your parent/gaurdian who actually want to hear you say that! on here it is offensive! Learn from it

Answer 7

'leajones':   I RESPECT your question!  

Here are some of my responses to some of your responders:  (read quick - it'll probably get kicked-off!)

"happily expectingg" - 16 y/o, and making 'choices'!  Must have a Fine, Well-paying Job; Wonderful, Caring Hubby, Marvelous 'nanny' - to care for the child while you WORK, etc.  

"calebs_mumma", and "Baby Bound" - Good for YOU!!  Who PAYS your Bills?  Feel 'PROUD'!  NEXT, tell me about your HUSBAND, and his JOB!

"Genie", and "Robert B" - KUDOS!

"Maestro" - What is "interesting" about treating a teenager 'differently' after they  have a "child"?  EVERYTHING is 'different' after having a 'child'!  Time for being a "KID" is OVER!!!  don't YOU understand???  And, if YOUR wish came TRUE, and YOU were MY girl, I'd have told you to take your little 'bundle of joy' back where you got it!  THAT's the 'RESPECT' you would have gotten from ME for getting pregnant!  (People like YOU are what THIS question is all about!)

"leajones" - I'm sorry to 'answer' this way!  (You picked a 'sensitive' topic for ME!)  But, since I have 'started' I might as well continue!

I blame MUCH of it on the parents!  If MY kids had walked around with their pants hanging off their butts, I would have have 'blistered' every inch of 'behind' that was exposed!  First low-cut sweater, or shirt/blouse on my daughters, would have gotten them a wardrobe of TURTLE-NECKS!  And if they wanted to wear 'SHORT-skirts',  their legs would have looked like Big-Bird's legs!

Come 'home' PREGANT, and TELL ME about the 'choices' they are making...  I would have given them some 'choices'!  And the 'choices' would NOT include walking away from the OBLIGATION(s) that THEY had made!  Nor would they include ME taking on THEIR responsibilites!

READ what your 'responders' are saying...  It's like they are PROUD of their ACTIONS...  And, they don't CARE!!!  SOMEONE will 'take care' of them...  They don't know WHO, they don't know HOW, and they DON'T CARE!!!  They don't know how to 'take care' of themselves!!!  How in the world are they going to take care of a 'CHILD'???

OK...  I'm DONE!  Maybe I've already said too much!  You asked: " please tell me what you think about young teens and children getting pregnant."  What I've 'said' is just a 'little' of what "I" think!

Hope this helps!  Hope you get to read it!

Bill

"SKYE"---

Maybe my answer was TOO LONG for you !!!

Maybe you missed something...  let me CLARIFY!

YOU said: "I don't think it is fair that many people assume that if your a young mum, your a bad mum! Most of these pregnancies are unplanned but it doesn't mean that its necessarily wrong. If the person can stand up and take responsibility for their child then they shouldn't have to put up with the constant judgement.  Also, everyone makes mistake."

AMEN!  And, AMEN!

If (YOU) are "...the person (who) can stand up and take responsibility for their child then they shouldn't have to put up with the constant judgement." ...  I TOTALLY agree!!!  And in that case, GOOD FOR YOU!!!  GOD BLESS YOU!

You stated that "teen pregnancy as it is a huge sacrifice and a hard job at any age..."  And I agree with THAT!    But, relating THAT (hard job), to being a "good mother", you still haven't told ME how YOU "take responsibility for (your) child"!

I'm sorry if you find my comments offensive!

YOU said: "I think a young mum only has to prove to her child that she can be a good mother."  

In MY experience, a "young mum" / "good mother", has to BE WITH their child, in order to PROVE what YOU are trying to SAY!  It starts EARLY on...  like maybe with breast-feeding (OH - DEAR - FORGIVE ME FOR THAT!), and such things as that ...  Being WITH the CHILD...  Being there FOR the Child!

So, if the "young mum" / "good mother" is

WORKING a JOB, to MEET her RESPONSIBILITY...  then WHO is watching the CHILD?

And, if the young mum" / "good mother" is NOT working a job, to meet her responsibility...  then WHO is PAYING the BILLS???

You said : "People make very different mistakes..."

I TOTALLY agree!  I'm NOT going to go into that "she should have kept her legs closed'' thing!  "I" am trying to stay focused on ONE aspect of a BIG issue!

I think that YOUR comment: "I suppose you are one of those people who are completely pro-life and are against abortions also?"  is not only totally UNFAIR, but I'm TELLING you that it is totally WRONG!!!

I DO believe that "If you want to PLAY, you got to PAY!"

I suggest that YOU either 'EXPLAIN' HOW you MEET your 'responsibilities'...  or ADMIT that YOU (and your child) are on the DOLE!

As for your comment: "Perhaps you should seek help for that anger problem you clearly have and see how much of a rude and ignorant person you are!"

  

"anger problem"?  ME?!!!

YES!!!  I'm TIRED of PAYING for 'free-loaders' who SWELL the 'Welfare Rolls', and STILL want to DICTATE how they are going to be taken care of!

You signed "Former teen mum"!  And you mentioned that " ...50yrs ago, it was the normal thing..."  Well, I was HOPING that you might have a different 'perspective', when you referenced 50 years ago!  Go back 150 years, or 200 years!  

Girls got married at 12 y/o!  So what?!?!?  They had kids, and took care of them!  And THEIR HUSBANDS took CARE of THEM!!!

"MISTAKES" were Hidden!  Doesn't mean they didn't HAPPEN!   But, they were NOT 'flaunted' in the face of the community!!!

And, THAT is what "I'm" talking about!!!

Hope that HELPS a little!  I'm NOT a BAD guy!  I AM opinionated!  And, I'm NOT afraid to SAY SO!

I hope you have a nice day, and I wish you GOOD LUCK!

Bill

Answer 8

it's been in the water for years but it's just more out in the open now. I think it has a lot to do with everybody is trying to grow up too quickly. The media makes it look easy with movies like Juno and all the public attention that they give Jaime Lynn Spears. I agree with you. It's crazy