Unemployed, college student, angry wife?

Question

I need some advice yahoo people! I got out of the Marine Corps and decided to go to college. My wife is a teacher so she has an income. I on the other hand am not working. I am using the GI Bill. With that and my wifes income we don't make enough for bills etc. My wife is constantly pissed off at me because 1. We never have enough money. 2. Because of that she gets pissed at all kinds of things I do. 3. life is miserable.

I figure that I could get a job along with going to school but im taking 16 credits and im afraid if I get a night job or something. My grades will slip and then I will possible fail classes. I was never good at school in the 1st place so there you go.

So my question is what should I do? Her parents are pissed at me. I know they think i'm lazy but I don't want to make 11.00 an hour the rest of my life. I feel the key to success is getting an education. So i'm trying to get through college as soon as possible. Woman they are never happy!

Answer 1

Perhaps you shouldn't have taken so many credits and thought about helping to pay the bills you owe. Yes an education is important but so is keeping your commitments. Get a job and be tired that is life. My hubby was on active duty, worked a second job and went to college (yes I worked too) it can be done.

Answer 2

At 16 credits at a time, it is just 4 years and totally worth it. It can seem like a long time at the moment, but it will go fast.

What are you studying? Maybe there is a job in that field where you can improve your skills for school work at the same time as you work?

Maybe you could look for a evening security-type job, where it is ok if you study while you are there?

Is there any sort of guidance person who helps with understanding the GI Bill and other such benefits? Maybe you could talk to someone as there might be more benefits - loans, help paying for housing, etc that might not be well-advertised.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Stay in school, you're right...you'll go much further with a college degree. However, if you want to please your wife, as well as get your education, you could try doing school part-time and working part-time or full-time.

I would tell you to finish this semester the way you're doing it now. Then, think about getting a job and cutting back your credit hours next semester.

It will take you longer to graduate, but that's about the only thing I can think of that will make her happy and keep you from having your grades slip b/c you're trying to work and go to school.

Oh, and don't worry about your wife's parents...you aren't married to them! :]

Good luck!!

Answer 4

this is why you dont marry before 25

Answer 5

Sounds like you're living above your means if you can't make it for awhile on a teacher's salary. It won't make you rich, but young, childless couples often live on very little. Does your wife have her eye on the future?

That said, if you can't make ends meet take a smaller course load and work part-time.

Answer 6

Well how about sitting down and talking to your wife. Tell her what you just told Yahoo people. I don't really know your situation, but I say you are off to a good start buy utilizing the GI Bill and wanting to better yourself in life. First off this is between your wife and you, not her parents. She needs to understand  you and be supportive. Of course women most of the time blame the guy because of financial unstability, that is because our head is program to believe that the guy is the head of the house hold and to support us. But what we all should know is that marriage is not just the guy bringing home the bacon, it is a team work process. You know that college student is the poorest people out there right. Working and going to school is extremely tough, but let your wife know that this is not going to be forever. You'll bring a whole lot more after you finish with your school. As of right now just hang in there and live off of what you have or cutting down on your spending. Anything is possible, try utilizing assistance out there or learn about money management.

Answer 7

well i am taking 16 credits and have a FULL time job at a retail store....yes. i dont really know how im doing it, but i am! you just have to do it one day at a time. yea, i have no life, but i will have money! hahahaha life is about sacrifice, and you were in the Marines, hello!! if you can get through that, real life should be nothing!

Answer 8

It is entirely possible to work part time (20-30) hours a week and take 16 hours.  If you don't want to be making 11.00 an hour for the rest of your life, you'll make it work.  

Answer 9

lol getting a night job and going to college isn't easy. but people still do it. i guess if you work hard enough and love your wife enough then you would do it.