Unsure of what to do, should i move out?

Question

i currently live in a household where both my parents are depressed, working in low paid jobs, negative, constantly complaining and arguing everyday. my brother also lives with us, he is also negative, he has some problems to overcome,he is also depressed and anxious, he is really struggling to recover and make a life for himself. all this has made me a negative person, stressed,anxious. i also feel angry.

i am supposed to go to university in sept and move out, to live on campus. i am told this might be good for me to go but i am really worried, i suppose i am scared to change. i don't feel prepared to go to uni. i feel like i won't be able to cope because of this. i am questioning everything!!!

i really feel to stay where i am in this household, i feel it is safer, comfortable, although albeit negative. plus my parents aren't to happy with me moving out, they aren't really understanding, which is not helping. i feel i can't really talk to them. my brother keeps telling me i should go.

i am really unsure, any advice, thoughts? similar experiences? would be greatly appreciated

thanks in advance

Answer 1

Never should you doubt yourself.  It seems as if you are letting the negativity rub onto you.  Just think in 5 years do you want to live at home with your parents? I hope the answer is NO.  Everyone must learn to crawl before they walk and this is it.  given the situation you are in I really believe you should go, don't let them sucker you into staying home.  All parents have a hard time letting go, but; all should know (and you) that without taking this step how will you ever leave the nest.  get out of your comfort zone and LIVE a little.  I wish I could leave to another state and experience life off the islands.  Unfortunately I have a house to pay for ughhhh.  whatever you decide to do I hope the best for you, and just remember BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.

Answer 2

It would do you a world of good to get out and be on your own to realize there is peace and you will have new friends and you will learn what a normal life is like and that is not saying you still don't love your family so go and have fun and learn and get that job