Update on my insane life!?

Question

Well if you read my other posts i currently have a house guest, luckily it's only for two weeks as i cant handle it any longer then that and refuse to...so heres todays shpeel (yes its only 7 in the morning

) last night i specifically asked my guest what time she would be leaving the house today, she told me 7, then i asked ok so what time are you gettin gup? she told 6. I said, exact wording "ok good because i have to get up at 630 tomorrow, i have a meeting at 8, and i need to shower first" The reason i told her this is because i needed her to know i would need the shower as i usually shower at night. I guess i should have specifically asked her "what time do you plan on getting into the shower tomorrow because i have to shower at exactly 630" Because i woke up at 635 and low and behold she was in the shower!! Now i assumed that if she was going to be up at 6 and had to leave at 7 she would have showered when she got up, considering she has 3 little girls to get ready to go, so i peeked in and they were still sleeping, rather she woke up late or was doing other stuff i dont know. I just feel like if she woke up late she would have taken that into consieration considering i told her i was getting up at 630 and needed to shower before being to work..i also have 2 kids i have to get ready, so if she has to go through a process of getting up, showering, getting her kids fed ready and out the door, i would think she would take those into consideration for me as well....UGHJ!! I just feel like it was a no brainer when she got up late or whatever to make sure the shower was ready for me to use at 630, when i told her i was getting up and had to shower....am i wrong to assume that considering the conversation i had??? Should i have to talk to her and explain things to her like i would a little kid in my own house??? She is 23 for heavens sake!!!

Answer 1

It's better to clear the air.  Set down in a quiet place, with no distractions, be polite, but firm and explain to her exactly how your house rules work.  Also, offer to let her use an alarm clock if she doesn't have one already.

Answer 2

Honestly, I would have gotten pissed off also. She's is a guest in your house, therefore she has to respect your home and you and know that if you have something going on (that you told her about) to make sure she either gets up really early, and if she over slept then she should have waited until you were done showering. It's very rude in her part to be doing these kinds of things in a guests home weather its family or not. She should put herself in your possition and think about how she would feel if someone as ignorant as her was doing what she's doing to you.

   Either way, she's almost out of the house, so I would recommend to take it easy. Just breathe and relax, because it will bring tension in the future, if you get into any argument with her (such as future family reunions or parties). I completly understand your situation. Just jump in the shower and rush out to your meeting and just think about how calm it will all be again without her around.  

Answer 3

You should've been upfront.

Answer 4

To err is human. A bit more patience and understanding is needed for both of you. You can also err on the side of caution, wake up earlier and use the shower at 530 instead of 630. That way you've just avoided any potential problems and have given yourself a bit more time too. When you have guests, always expect the unexpected.  

Answer 5

Human nature. Sometimes it's better to spell it out.

Answer 6

do you think perhaps she may have done this tongue in cheek because she knew it would wind you up this much??

wow, you need to chill, too much drama over such a small matter, it sounds like she is enjoying yanking your chain,

and breathe