Urgent Advice needed... My boyfriend hates my cats ?

Question

We have been together for about a year and we have a 2 week old daughter. I've had many pets throughout my entire life and when I met Michael I had many more cats than I do now. ( I was fostering) Now that we've moved in together I have 4 cats, 1 of which I've agreed to find a home for... But he still wants me to get rid of another! It is hard enough for me to get rid of the one let alone my other kitty. He is allergic to cats, but to be honest I very rarely see him having any reaction, and I think it could be a bit of an exaggeration... He is claiming my cats cost too much and that I cant take care of them.. ( I am on maternity leave as of now but am in the job hunting process) I dont know what is right to do, the only problem we have is with my cats and he claims Im being unresponsible and selfish, but I love my cats and he knew I had them I feel Ive already sacrificed, however he says it's him who has to sacrifice everyday... I see both sides to this argument, and I dont want to ruin my relationship with Mike, however I really love my cats and do not want to part with any of them, but this has become a major issue... I wish there was a way for me to do something..... any one have advice on what I can / or should do? Am I right to keep all my cats or wrong? Please help!!

Answer 1

sell your cats and get a dog.....or find a better boyfriend...good luck

Answer 2

You are very right to keep YOUR cats! Their your cats not his so you can keep them!

Who do you love more your cats or your bf.

BF's come and go cats stay forever!

Answer 3

You had the cats when he met you so he knew what he was getting into.  Although this seems like a petty issue, why is he making it such a big deal to take away something from you that you love and that the knew you had when you got together?  This type of behavior is going to spill into other parts of your relationship in the future, I guarantee it.  It sounds more like a power trip than anything.  

Answer 4

My father is allergic to cats.  Not in an explosive sneeze every second way but they make him feel all stuffed up sort of like you're getting a cold every day.  It's not a fun way to live but as the rest of the family loved cats he put up with it for a heck of a long time.  But as he's been living cat free since our last cat passed away I know that now he'd never go back.  He'll visit my house with cats but makes sure he has allergy meds ready to go.

That said I'd give your boyfriend some serious help here.  That he's willing to share a house with even one pet that he's allergic to is a huge concession on his part already.  You can make it easier on him by investing in air filters for the house and vacuuming every day.  

Look at it this way, he's willing to put up with feeling sick every day he's with you because you are worth it.  I would think that your boyfriend and the mother of your child would be worth compromising at least a bit on your part too.

Answer 5

Which is more important to you your bf or the cats?

Answer that and you will have your answer as what to do.