Vegetarian gift problem?

Question

I'm a vegetarian and my grandma gave me a purse with crocodile skin and it was expensive it was baby phat and i do not support baby phat because they use fur and torture animals im thinking of only using it when i go over her house or tell people i got it in chinatown and that its fake. I don't want to hurt her feeling but every time i touch it i feel shame that i don't eat or use animal hides or fur or skin but have to use this purse. I fee like such a hypocrite.

Answer 1

i would talk to her and tell her that you feel terrible and really appreciate the gift but that you don't use animal products and don't want to use the bag, ask her if she or you can exchange it for another item instead.  most people would rather know their money was spent on a gift someone uses than that they bought a gift that sits in a closet all year.  so just be honest.  

Answer 2

Well, I don't think you're a hypocrite. If you threw the thing away, I might say so. But you didn't buy it, you didn't ask for it, someone else gave it to you. If you throw it away, you're wasting it.

I would suggest checking the tags (it totally might be fake). Write your grandmother a nice thank-you note, make a point to use it when you go to see her or she comes to see you. Before your next birthday or holiday rolls around, be sure she knows that you're a veggie. (Write a specific list, perhaps?)

Answer 3

Try honesty and respect with your grandmother.  Hopefully she will respect that in return.  You can appreciate the gift as such.  Ask her to accept it back with regard to your beliefs concerning the use of animal products.  If she refuses, then you don't have to use the gift.  You have honored her and done all you can.  The purse is yours to do with as you please.  You can use it, store it, give it away or throw it away.  Seems a waste to throw it away, but it is yours and your choice.

In all things, try to interact with respect.  You don't have to agree, and respect smooths a lot of disagreements.

Answer 4

Just use the purse, the crocodile would of ate you if given the chance. It was a gift anyway, so you didn't buy it.

Answer 5

You should tell her the truth. She's your grandma so she'll probably respect your decision.

Answer 6

she's your grandmother. tell her the truth. she should support you in your beliefs.  

Answer 7

baby phat stuff isnt expensive first off.. if it was crocidile it would be a couple hundred dollars and they dont sell real stuff..and they dont use real fur...cuz there stuff is cheap..and second give it back to your grandma..telll her to return it..and just give you the money and you can buy whatever u want..

Answer 8

Tell her the truth--- how you feel about it. May be she will

appreciate your good feeling for other living beings in this

world and kind heart to protect them. I dont think she would

get hurt if she comes to know your genuine reason for

not using it.

savithri

Answer 9

Just tell her how you feel. She can return it right? Ask her to get you something else.

Answer 10

1.  Baby phat is overpriced junk.

2. It probably is fake.  Refer to point one.

Answer 11

Lose it.

Answer 12

Just tell her the truth.  Perhaps you can return it.  If you don't tell her the truth she will just buy you more things that are against your beliefs.  It's important to voice your opinions so that you don't get stuck with things like that.

Answer 13

Theres probably a good chance that its fake. Check the tags.

I wouldnt throw it away, I would just use it when I went to visit. Let her feel good about herself for getting you a gift she thinks you enjoy. =)

Answer 14

I had the same problem but here's what I would do

use it a few times over at her house

then get rid of it

if she asks say you lost it and if she doesn't ask good you don't have to lie

I'm glad you don't like brands that test on animals or use them in they're products

I'm a vegan too

good luck hope I helped