Veggies & Vegans: Could you forgive someone who tricked you in to eating meat?

Question

Would it make a difference if they were someone you cared about?

Answer 1

No I couldnt forgive someone for doing that.

Why would anyone be that immature or nasty to do that, nobody I cared about would do it.

Answer 2

I think tricking someone into anything is a betrayal of trust, you can forgive, but best not to forget least they do something again.

You do realise that you can choose your friends don't you?

Answer 3

Of course I would forgive them.  Life is to short and precious to be holding grudges like that.  That's one of the reasons I am a vegan, because I respect life and respect others.

I would still love and respect them as a living thinking being that they are.  However for as long as either of us lived would I ever trust them again.  Every morsel of food ever offered by them or suggested by them would be scrutinized closely.  Even if it offended them, they lost my trust and have shown themselves to not deserve it.

Love them yes, but never trust them again.

Fool me once shame on you.  Fool me twice, shame on me!

Answer 4

so sorry you have been deceived.  and i would forgive them, but TRUST would be an issue.  Most likely i would cut off association with the offender, and let Karma take it's course.  and most of the people i care about respect my wishes and me enough NOT to try something so disrespectful.  and if they did - then i would have to question my choices in folks i cared about.  you can learn alot about people when these sorts of situations arise, who your real friends are, who you can trust.  i wish you well - hope this never happens to you again.  :)

Answer 5

It depends on the person. My dad once gave me a product I was boycotting and he only told me once I had finished. I only forgave him four days later when I realised he was genuinely sorry.

If someone gave me meat I don't think I could forgive them for a very long time. I would make them feel really guilty for at least six months.

Answer 6

Well, I am of the opinion that even if you do not agree with a person's decisions in life, you should respect them.

That being said, I also am of the opinion that forgiveness is divine, which is what we should all be striving toward.

Answer 7

I would be really hurt and angry if someone tried to sabatoge me like that and I'd let them know on no uncertaain terms that it's unacceptable! I would be able to forgive them eventually if and only if they were truly sorry, but trust would certainly be broken. as we all know, trust is earned and  takes a lot of time to repair. I definitely wouldn't let them feed me again unless I watched them prepare it and even still. That's a very tough spot to be in and if this happened to you, I am very sorry.

Answer 8

I think it would but it makes you wonder whether they value you as an individual in the first place. This happened to me at a party and I wasn't too sure whether something contained meat and my friend told me it was pure vegetarian. Luckily I decided not to eat it as I overheard somebody saying what it contained. I found it peculiar that my friend persuaded me into eating something that she knew contained meat and she knew I was strictly vegetarian. It made me think twice about trusting her in the future.

Answer 9

I think I'm a fairly bright person and I would know the difference between meat and a meat substitute. I haven't had meat in so long, I'd immediately know the difference.

If some slipped by me, however, I would be very upset. I would forgive them, but their status on my trust meter would fall considerably. It would be a disrespectful thing to do.

Answer 10

if someone intentionally tricked me into eating meat, i don't think i could. why would i care about someone who clearly doesn't care about me?

Answer 11

No I wouldn't forgive them. I wouldn't dwell on it or let it affect my life by making me hurt and bitter but I would forget about that person and block them from my life. I wouldn't want to socialize with someone who had so little respect for me or be so ignorant/arrogant that they can't see past their own beliefs.

Thankfully this person would not be someone I cared about so it wouldn't be too hard to shun them. No one I care about would ever do that to me. All of my family and friends respect my ethics.

Answer 12

I very much doubt that I would be spending time with anyone immature enough to do something like that.

If you care about or love someone you can't just turn that off, but someone who did that would lose my respect and trust, as they would if they slipped vodka to a teetotaller, sugar to a diabetic, pork to a Muslim or Jew - showing a total lack of respect for someones choices, needs or beliefs

Answer 13

If they asked for forgiveness and were truly sorry for what they'd done then I'd forgive them but not until then. I don't think anyone I know would do that so I don't know whether it'd make a difference or not:-s

Answer 14

I used to be a vegetarian, not any more but I cannot imagine why somebody would want to trick you into eating meat, ESPECIALLY if its someone you care about/cares about you.

I think possibly I could forgive them but it would take a long time and a very, very good explanation as to why they would do such a strange thing?

Do they not take the vegetarianism/veganism seriously?

Answer 15

i have no choice but to forgive

my mom does that sometimes when we go to restaurants- she tries to convince me to eat the chicken or fish or whatever.....and i know thats not really tricking but once or twice i have ended up eating a bite but i usually throw it up later since i feel too guilty about it! lol

and im not really into the whole "meat is murder" thing

i just cant stand the smell of meat...

Answer 16

No I wouldn't forgive them, no matter what!!  It means that they have no respect for me or my dietary choices.  And it wouldn't make a difference if it was someone I cared about, as they obviously didn't care about me enough not to taint my food.

Answer 17

no, especially because aside from the fact that they obviously have no respect whatsoever for my life, choices, and moral beliefs i would probably also get really sick from it... so they are purposely essentially "poisoning" me and commiting me to atleast a day of horrible stomache upset and that's extremely mean.  

what if i was lactose intolerant and they snuck cheese in?  or diabetic and they told me a super sugary cookie was sugar free?

what if i was jewish and they purposely did something against my religion? or muslim and they snuck ham in?

it's just wrong no matter how you slice it.  and it says a lot about a person who could intentionally inflict such hurt on another person.  ESPECIALLY someone who supposedly cared about me.

Answer 18

eating meat is not a sin and just because it taste good or bad does not make it the only scorce of health.

you must forgive as christ forgave on the cross those who would kill him. even if it were human life and precious to you you must forgive because it only does you harm to harber hate for the misdeeds that have been done to you. love is the fulfilling of the law and you can not hate your brother or neighbour or friend if you love God with all your heart mind and soul and your neighbour as yourself.

you may have to educate him as to why you do not eat meat or desire to. but in the long run for the survuval in this world and the next world we need to forgive.

Answer 19

definetly not.its kind of disrespectful.and i think its almost caniballism.eating another living thing (or was living) things flesh isnt too appealing is it?

Answer 20

Well id be angry but i don't know if id stop talking to that person,, i think it is one of them things that you don't know until it happens =] x

Answer 21

I'm a meat eater and a cook and I think it's very wrong to do something like that.  I also wonder about law suits for intentionally serving non-kosher foods to orthodox Jews or serving non-halal foods to Muslims.

Answer 22

I would sue you.  For sure...No good person would trick someone into eating something they are morally or ethically apposed to.

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Answer 23

Well, I would really question if that person cared about YOU or respected you and your choices.  My mother used to try to slip meat into products when I was young so that I would eat it, and I forgave her.  After sitting her down and explaining that this choice was a serious one and as to why I didn't care to eat meat any longer, she understood and stopped.  

If it was done intentionally by someone you care about, (I know I'm going to get a million and one thumbs down on this one!) but perhaps they just really care about you and think they know what is best for you.  Talk to them.  If they refuse to hear you out or understand then they don't care about you at all.

You should always try to find it in your heart to forgive...people do things for reasons that we may not understand.

Good luck.

Answer 24

I could, of course forgive them after a while. But the betrayal of trust would probably be too much for me and I'm not sure that [if it was my friend] we would remain friends after such an incident.

Answer 25

There are two types of forgiveness in my book. One is a general forgiveness in which you wish all (wo)mankind well even with all their imperfections.

The other type of forgiveness has to do with the individual actually repenting (all repentance means is change).

If a person slipped me meat and I found out about it then it is up to my heart whether or not to forgive them of wrong doing regardless or not if they are sorry about it. This is what I call agape or spiritual love. This type of love is to be given unconditionally to all humanity regardless of circumstance and has more to do with the spiritual aptitude of the aggrieved.

However this second type of forgiveness cannot be obtained unless they actually ask for it.

To answer your question yes, on both accounts. I could forgive them if they slipped me meat and were not repentant, and I could also forgive them if they did ask for forgiveness as well.  

I guess a good way to view it is there are degrees to forgiveness. To acquire the higher degree one must work in conjunction with the forgiver.

Answer 26

i guess i can.

being a vegatarian, i'm strict in choosing what i eat. but i do not want to seem like a difficult, angry person too.

but i will make it clear to that person that i'm very upset for what he/she had done and will wish him not to do that again.

Answer 27

i would forgive them.....as a Christian i believe that forgiveness is very important.  however, just because i would forgive them does not mean that i would not give them a piece of my mind first.....i'm sure it would take time for me to get over it.

however, if someone tricked me into eating meat then they must not have respect for me, and that lack of respect from them and lack of trust from me would probably cause the relationship to crumble anyhow.

Answer 28

if they were in my family i would forgive them after a few days, but it would take a long time and a lot of cold shoulders before i did. i might not forgive a peron i wasnt close with.

Answer 29

if it was someone that i cared about, then i would be quite disappointed. they know that i am a vegan, and for some dumb reason make me eat animal products? doesn't sound like a good friend, or a good person to trust

Answer 30

Probably.

I wouldn't let it get in the way of a good friendship or anything, but I would still be angry.

I don't preach to anyone about vegetarianism, and I accept their decision to eat meat. In return, I expect them to do the same, and them tricking me into doing so would just be a huge breach of trust.

A bit dramatic, sure, but it's something I'm very passionate about.

Answer 31

Nobody who is close to me (i.e. family and friends) would EVER dream of it.  My relationships with these people are based on mutual love and respect.

So, if someone did, it would necessarily be someone I wasn't close to.  In that case, they've just proven that they don't care about me and I wouldn't feel like I needed to have anything further to do with them.  I'd forgive them for my own sake; it doesn't do me any good to carry a grudge.  But that doesn't mean I have to give them the opportunity to insult and disrespect me again.