Vegitarian and a meat eater couple?

Question

when we get married i dont want to make animal meals :(...so any people in the same situation?

Answer 1

I am about to get married and my future husband eats meat and I do not. At first, when I made the switch, he was not accepting. There was a lot of whining, and huff-puffing. He wanted things to go back the way that there were. I am in charge of dinner. I duty that I enjoy. When all the meat suddenly disappeared from the menu he was quite disappointed and vocal. Then one night we sat down and had a long talk about the changes I was making. That this was something I believed in. After that there hasn't been an issue.

I do not cook meat! If he wants meat he must make it himself. Like tonight he is heating up spare ribs. For the most part he eats what I make for dinner. He is not always happy about it and there can be some complaining, but we work through it.

If you love someone you should learn to love everything about them. I have accepted that my future husband will sometimes eat veal, turkey, and steak. He has accepted that there's a good chance I'll throw tofu in his dinner.

Answer 2

I'm vegan and married to a non-vegetarian.  Honestly, it's no big deal.  If he wants meat, he can cook it (or if we have the money for it, go out to eat it).  Otherwise, he can eat whatever I cook.

The way I see it, if you're cooking every meal for your husband, as long as you see to not poisoning him or giving him something he's allergic to, he's got a pretty good deal.  A marriage is a partnership.  That means it shouldn't automatically be your responsibility to cook, so if he wants to eat food which you have moral opposition to cooking, he can figure it out himself.  If he doesn't agree with this assessment, then you have an issue, but I think that's a deeper issue than just the question of what he's eating for dinner.

Answer 3

you have no contract or prenuptial papers

shake it off and find a suitable partner

physical properties good looks s*x do not make a bond

go back to church

Answer 4

I know some couples that are in this situation, the woman is vegetarian and the man is not.

There is no meat in the house, the man eats meat outside, and they all live happily ever after

Answer 5

then dont make them, tell the dude to fix his own meals

Answer 6

You know what he is now, before you get married .... so, you know what you're getting into.   You need to discuss this with him, and work out some compromise (maybe he can BBQ his own main dish);  but, you can't just get married and THEN say you don't want to cook meals for him!  That's not the right way to start a life together......

Answer 7

I am. My boyfriend and I come from the opposite sides of life, he is a hunter fisher blood red meat eater and I am a bug saving flower sniffing vegetarian. After two years, I am starting to get him to accept vegetarian things, he even refuses to eat normal hot dogs now because he says tofu ones taste better.

Answer 8

Well maybe you two can come to a certain eating plan.

Like maybe y'all can substitute meat at meals for salads, fruits,etc: and there are many ways to make meals fun.

But you know what they say opposites attract so hey my best advice is to come to a eating plan were you both are satisfied.

Answer 9

If you expect your fiancee to respect your beleifs but are unwilling to extend to him the same courtesy, then you ahve a serious misunderstanding of what a marriage is all about.

The vows generally say

"love and cherish tillo death do you part" not "love and cherish only when convenient"

If you ask me, I would seriously reconsider... with that kind of an attitude, there is a good chance your marriage will end up in the divorce statistics.. Or you can talk nto your fiancee now and maybe you can come up with a compromise.. Maybe he is more willing to be a better partner than you are..

Answer 10

Make that clear before you get married.  When I got married, I still ate poultry and fish but became vegetarian years later.  Our meals are vegetarian.  If hubby wants meat, he cooks it.

Answer 11

Yes I am...but you have the face the situation and accept it..i did cuz there's nothing you can do..

Answer 12

Compromise, my dear.  Compromise.

I went from meat-eating omnivore to vegan pretty-much overnight back in 2006, one month before my husband and I were married.  It was a bit of a shocker to him.  I realized that it was MY change, and I reassured him that I wouldn't force him to be vegan (or even vegetarian) and that I would still cook him the same meals I always had up to that point...

And I did, for a year... then I stopped... because he asked me to.

A year was enough time for him to see that my veganism isn't a phase, it isn't restrictive, it isn't hard, and it isn't stinky drum-beating hippie-ness.  And the food is fantastic.  He respects and admires my conviction and courage to live in a way I feel is right and not be apologetic or ashamed of it, even to him.  After a year, he decided that his habit/tradition of eating animal flesh wasn't more important than my ethics that I should have to compromise them for him when there's perfectly delicious food to be had without exploitation or death.

It took a year, but he came around, and thanks to both our patience with eachother, we're both in a place where we're satisfied: I can cook by my ethics, he can eat like a king.  Everybody's happy.  

These things take time, but it's worth it.

I don't know if my experience helps you - hoping it does.

Best of luck!