Verbal abuse boyfriend please help...?

Question

Me and my boyfriend where together for 5 years we broke up like 2 weeks ago. We got into a really big fight and than i moved out. We didnt talk for a couple of days than i went over to his house to talk, and we had s*x, i thought was more make up s*x, but i guess it wasnt to him. Cause the next day he didnt wanna talk or nothing else like i was just a f*ck buddy now. So we started fighting again, i asked him if he wanted me to bring the rest of his stuff and he started calling me a **** real mean ****, than told me that he hated me and wish i would die. He told me today that his life would be better if i was dead. And it hurts so bad, i dont know what to do. Im trying so hard not to get upset. even with him saying that i still love him and wanna talk to him, cause it just hurts to know he stop loving me. What can i do to help me get over this, cause he really messed up m mind, im going crazy now, I just feel like i hate my life, and wish i could just die to make us both happy.

Answer 1

I am sure it feels really bad right now. You must focus on you though. Let things cool down without acting needy and if things are meant to be then they will. Sometimes it is hard to let go but if he is talking to you like this now and you are only BF/GF then imagine the treatment you will get if you marry and Lord forbid you have kids and he does this in front of them. Think it through while you are in cool down mode. I am from the hood and know how it is when you are Ride or Die. But at some point it is about you. No one is worthy of you offing or hurting yourself more than you are hurting. Think Things through and find support from someone who can boost you up and not confuse you more.

Good luck.

No one deserves to be talked down to.

Answer 2

You are so much better than he is, love. YOU care, so the world needs more people like you. Leave him while you have the chance... take a holiday or sommat.

Answer 3

first of all don't kill yourself it'd only make matters worse and then make him regret ever saying it. i been w/ one of these boys and i just let him go and shoved it in his face how happy i am now. trust me i was in a car wreck and my ex thought i passed away and he came to see me in the hospital so he don't mean it its just a way of them getting their anger out i guess. just move on. it is hard at first but if you stay strong you can get through it girl.

Answer 4

get out now and get out alive it will only escalate from here

Answer 5

U need 2 leave him alone, NOW.  U did move out, so that's the first thing.  Keep moving, girl and don't look back.  U R stronger than U think U R.

Answer 6

Cut off all contact now.

Do not call, visit, text, or email him.

You are upset because life as you knew it has been disrupted.

You no longer have the same relationship with him.

The more you go by him...the more he will continue to use & abuse you verbally.

He is doing this because he is no longer in love with you.

He has separated himself from you emotionally.

He can hurt you without feeling badly about it.

You will not get over him until you face that it is over.

Keep reminding yourself that there is someone out there who will treat you with love & respect.

The only reason to contact him is to keep getting hurt until you can no longer take it.

This is not the only way to find closure, waiting until he hurts you bad enough so that you will know it is over!?!?!?!

You are smarter than that...you do not have to walk in front of the speeding bus to know how much it will hurt if it hits you.

Best wishes

  

Answer 7

You are one lucky lady!  Thank goodness you were able to end this relationship, before something really tragic happened.  Just remember that men like that build themselves up by putting down others.  Don't allow him to do anymore damage to you.  Regain your composure, truly walk away and don't look back. Don't give him the satisfaction of hurting you anymore.  If you don't already see him for what he is, then you will in time.  You take it one day at a time, remove yourself from his reach both mentally and physically.      

Answer 8

I'm sure it's extremely hard to lose someone that you were with for five years.  I would let it be - you deserve better.  Regardless of why he stopped loving you, with the way he is treating you now, does it matter?  People change in time, sometimes people change together and sometimes they grow apart.  I'm sure you love him but at the same time you've been with him a long time, your used to being with home and sometimes it's scared to be alone and have to start over and find someone else.  You will.  Give yourself time, don't see him or talk to him until you know you are ready and able to.  Don't let him emotionally abuse you - that's not love or even common decensy for a human being.

Answer 9

i know how you feel me any my boyfriend of 2 years are fighting right now and he wont even talk to me , i hate my life sometimes, but i dont really know how to make you feel better when im sitting here crying myself. i hate it, every channel on tv seems to have some lovey dovey couple on and nothing i love doing is fun without him. sometimes when we fight he says mean things like that and i say things like that to him too. sometimes fighting makes people say things they dont mean, sometiems it also brings out the truth though, but what he is saying to you just seems like he is trying to make you feel bad about your self, you just have to laugh at him and tell him you know youll be better off without him and he will be miserable without you, sometimes if i act like i dont care it changes my bf's whole attutude and perspective on things i guess.. im sorry you feel like this i know how it is, everyone always seems to break up, thats why sometiems i wonder whats the point of trying so hard to be happy with someone and try to make them happy because 2 seconds later everything can change. good luck, try playing some online games or something to get your mind off things. love and peace <3