I fell in love with a person, not his addiction. He was insecure & manipulate & could push my buttons. I became mean, verbally & emotionally cruel as I became less & less trustful of his actions. I did not trust him. We fought a lot, and somehow, his addictions got overlooked & my problems were always in the limelight. I loved him but hated his addition & the lies & lack of motivation in himself to do anything. He was not in school, nor did he ever work full-time. I thought that staying with him was showing him loyalty & that I believed in him & his recovery. Instead, the stress-level & volatility of the relationship brought out the ugliness is me & we had very bad fights. He committed suicide. He blamed me & us fighting on his relapses & threatened that I "was going to make him commit suicide". I am conflicted with immense guilt for adding more stress to this persons life, fighting with him, always seeming disappointed in HIM when it was the drugs I was disappointed in. We both obviously had issues, but now he is dead. He had been doing drugs for over 10 years. We were together for 2 1/2, long-distance, and fought all of the time. He said I beat him up emotionally & drove him to depression & I would be so mad at him for not getting his life together, it's like I was emotionally numb. I was the only girl he really tried to love & he thought I would love him unconditionally. I shouldn't have stayed with him. He said I gave him false hope & was just messing with his mind, which maybe I was? HELP!! I know I have issues, but would this drive someone to commit suicide? I think he was afraid to break up with me, or wanted to leave this world making me & everyone else feel guilty for how we treated or REACTED to him.
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