Very clingy whiny 1 year old!!! HELP???

Question

My son is 1yr and lately here he has been very clingy and whiny. He always wants to be with me and hold him. Dont get me wrong I love that he wants me and I give him lots of love and attention and we play and sometimes he's fine but sometimes he's not is this just a phase, could it be that he is teething about now w/ his molers? He just seems very whiny about stuff and he seems to not want solid food too. He wants to be held and picked up but I dont want to make a habit of carring him with me every second of the day, I dont feel that is healthy to do. He needs to learn independance too. I never want him to feel unwanted so I try to sit down with him and engage him in things and love on him but the second I get up to do something he cries. I try to go half way with the attachment parenting by including him in lots of things but also let him have his sence of own by letting him do him He is never neglected, I always interact w/ him and love him. Any sug. or tips & yes i know hes a baby!

Answer 1

Most kids go through this phase. It is a form of separation anxiety. Even though you are with them all the time, they still are learning that you do come back whether you are down the hall or out for an evening. I am a nanny and I fortunately am able to bring my son to work with me. At about ten months old, I noticed that he was not bonding with his Dad much, so I started leaving him with him one day a week. I think that it was very important for both of them. The first month was very difficult on everyone, but after that it has been a blessing.  Your child needs to see that other people can provide for them the way that you do and that if you do leave that you come back. Otherwise just keep sitting on the floor engaging him in new things. He will get over this hump.

Answer 2

I am a stay at home mom of 4 children and most of my kids went thru this phase. Espically my baby who is 2 now. He is truley a mommas boy! However he has now outgrown that stage. Its a phase, enjoy it while it lasts. Soon he will be screaming MOM get out of my room!! Mom dont kiss me in front of my friends! Mom I can ride my bike to school alone!

LOL Those are the words I hear from my 10 yr old!

Answer 3

I have an 18 month old and I have the same problem (I stay home to). It is actually causing problems with my husband and I because she will not let him do anything for her. I have to do everything. If he tries, she has a meltdown. What we are going to start trying is leaving her with daddy or someone else and get them used to being away from you for short periods at a time, and then eventually work on being away for longer so that they know that other people can help them to. I think he is just attached to you because you are with him ALL of the time. I think eventually he (and hopefully mine to) will grow out of that phase.

Answer 4

You're totally right - this is just a phase! My son went through the exact same thing, except I am not a stay at home mom, so hsi was a lot worse. I believe he grew out of it right around the 2 year mark, and not he's hitting different phases lol.

As far as the not eating thing, completely normal as well. Kids go through growth spurts as well as teenagers do, and sometimes they eat everyting in sight, and sometimes they nit pick at food and don't eat 'healthy' for 3-4 days. According to my son's dr. this is normal behavior and after a few days he will start eating regularly again. Just be sure he still drinks plenty of fluids to keep him hydrated. My son likes Pedialyte and Pediasure (Chocolate).

Good Luck!