Very eerie dream...?

Question

What I'm going to start off with is what I think a bit of relevant background to my dream:

At the moment I'm going through a bit of a rough patch in my life with a person who I'm 'seeing'... He doesn't treat me the best but I'm still falling for him & it's sort of controlling most aspects of my life. This worry about him etc...

I dreamt that this particular person was diagnosed with terminal Cancer. He was only given a few weeks to live. One day he felt strong enough to spend the day with me & we were in the city centre & he suddenly felt extremely weak & needed to sit down immediately. He sort of collapsed & his nose started to bleed & the fear & distress I felt was awful. The thing is I felt the 'weakness' he was feeling, it was weird. Then it was almost like he was about to die & he sort of merged into one of my college friends whose male.

When I woke up I was really disturbed. The atmosphere hasn't left me all day. It's so eerie...

I need to know what this means, thanks!

Answer 1

The short answer?  The fact that he has cancer in the dream and you are affected by it most likely means that he will be like a cancer in your life.  Taking you down with him, making you weak.  I know it's hard to do when you care for someone, but keep in mind it will be much harder to leave later.  This dream doesn't have anything good to say if you continue in this relationship.

Sarita

Answer 2

Brentall... Spot on! Direct target bullseye hit...

You had me all the way until you called the rest irrelevant.  

The terminal cancer represents the cancer that he has become in your life, girlfriend.  He is controlling, manipulative, aggressive... and if he treats you bad now - and you are in the process of "falling,"  well, somthing is trying to open your eyes to see this is the best this relationship will ever get.



What do you think life will be like with this man in another year... two??  Are you going to allow this warning to pass without taking action in favor of yourself??

First off, you are more valuable than that!  By him switching to one of your college male friends at death, you are revealing you know you deserve better than what you are settling for.  For whatever reason, you don't feel worthy of anything better.

You are afraid of rejection, and will sacrifice your life to be with someone, regardless of how they treat you.

If you were standing back watching a friend go through what you are now, how would you guide them?  Would you encourage them to stay in it regardless of the pain, or would you want them to see that they are worth more?  By seeing him in a weakened state, it is your smart mind trying to overpower your heart and body's willingness to allow his treatment.

But you are using the dream to further your reasoning to stay.

Wise up, girlfriend!  

You don't need a man to dictate your worth : )

Answer 3

Well if your in bed and think about him alot you will feel how you feel about him if you are really mad at him you will have bad dreams about him stop thinking about him at night.

hope this helps.!

Answer 4

The dream of cancer relates to some of your feelings about the relationship.  You seem to be very conflicted on what is best for you.  Your unconscious seems to be saying that if he is the weak one in this relationship and your caring for him is only making you feel awful.  You were not feeling his weakness, you were feeling your weakness in your inability to make some changes in your life.  His merging into another person suggests your unconscious simply let you off the hook so you did not have to make any changes.  Let me know if this makes sense to you.

Answer 5

You had me at "He doesn't treat me the best but I'm still falling for him".

Run NOW.  The other way.  Save your self years of abuse, heartache, and unhappiness.

Your dream.....it's irrelevant.