Very hyper 3 year old that doesn't listen???

Question

I have a 3 year old that does not listen at all. We tried to put him in the corner, Slap his hand, and tap him on his mouth. He always talks back, and when he doesn't get what he wants, he screams at the top of his lungs and will not shut up for 30 Minutes to an hour. I don't know what else to do. Please throw me some ideas. Thank you

Answer 1

Spank him!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Take away most or all of his toys and make him do better things around the house like respect you more, and stop yelling.

If you spank him and punish him by taking away his toys and stuff he should realize what you're doing and may'be he will listen.

And if he/she is always screaming for something listen to what he has to say, but if it is something that he cant do or you wont let him do and he refuses to listen to you and starts screaming then let him scream and dont listen to him or ignore him. Lock him.she in his room and keep him in there he should cry hisself asleep. he may scream because you may give him what he wants and he knows that if he screams then you will give him what he wants.

Im not even a parent im a 15 year old guy just experimenting what my parents do or did to me and my other parent family members do to their toddler or younger kids.

Answer 2

put  him  in  his room  with  a  gate  up  to the   door   way     for   30 minutes  

Answer 3

he needs stricter rules not more yelling but rewards for good behavior.  i think spanking etc should be used only for very important lessons e.g. running out in the street, reaching up or climbing on stove and counters, anything that can really hurt him.  gooooooood luck.  3 yrs old is really hard for everyone

Answer 4

These are the tactics I've always used while working as a nanny and they have always worked. Hope they do for you too!

The Timeout Shelf

Instead of putting your child in timeout, place the child’s favorite toys in timeout. Find a safe place your child can not reach and you are ready to begin trying this tactic out. Whenever your child miss behaves or throws a tantrum, simply take a toy away and place it in this spot. Let the child know the toy will not come down until they start listening and following your directions. If after the first five minutes the child refuses to stop, place another toy up on the shelf. This exercise will take a few tries but your child will eventually grasp an understanding.

Take Away Privileges

Let your child know that every time they misbehave they no longer get to do or have something they enjoy. I have tried this with the kids I nanny for and it truly works. For example: Take away their tv time for the day, any music privileges, special video games they play, certain fun outings that are planned, and etc.. When the child starts to associate their bad behavior with losing these privileges, they will slowly start following your directions. This particular tip took me about a week and a half before I saw results.

Spanking

I personally came from a home that used this form of discipline. I am still fine to this day. Some people think that this is such a cruel form of punishment and others are fine with it. The bottom line is how far you take the spanking. Of course if a child is not yours you have no right to spank them, unless approved by their parents. If you are the parent however, know your boundaries. If you lightly smack their bottom or hand there should not be a problem. I do not advise hitting them with all your might leaving bruises or marks behind. This is completely out of line and a form of child abuse.

Egg Timer

Instead of just placing your child in timeout and walking away, try this tactic. Tell your child once they are sitting down you will start the timer for three minutes. If they choose to still fuss or not sit, two minutes will be added every time they refuse to listen. When you first start this exercise make sure you sit with the child so they know you mean business. Also, if the child gets out of the seat, place them back in and show them when you add two minutes to the timer. Showing them the timer allows them to see you are not lying.

Yelling or Raising Your Voice

Usually yelling just makes a child shut down. They automatically go in “I can’t hear you mode” and don’t hear a word you say. A child doesn’t want to hear negative things constantly and never be praised. So if you do decide to use this form of discipline make sure you praise the child too when something is done right. This allows your child to distinguish a difference between the two actions. I know it is hard but the best thing to do is breath and then approach your child. Tell them in a calm tone you need them to follow the rules. Let them tell you what they are doing wrong and what they can do to fix it. Allowing the child to think on their actions slows them down and changes their path from what they were doing.

Sticking to your guns is the whole point behind any of these forms of discipline. Once you know you can follow through, you can succeed.

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Answer 5

the problem is, is that he learned that screaming for a long time will get him what he wants. He is lacking dicipline!

When you do timeout, you sit your child in one spot where there are no toys, TV or any other entertainment distructions. He will cry, scream, spit, beg for hugs but your job is to CALMLY say that he is punshed and will have to stay there untill he says he is sorry and does what you are asking him to do. if 30 minutes passes, you sit next to him and calmly explain like to an adult why you are asking him to do something, remind him that you/dad love him very much and do everything for him, but when you ask something of him he is expected listen and do. Remind him that he has an option to continue to sit and cry or to say sorry, fix behavior and then the two of you can go/do something fun (park, watch favorite cartoon, draw) whatever it is.

You should not give in to your child. you can also use a condition like "if you don't put your toys in the box, I will take them away and you won't be able to play with them today at all" or no cartoon at night. Whatever will feel like a true cosequence. Explain that the toy will come back when behavior is fixed.

This is difficult, and you will have to repeat for about 2-4 weeks. After that it will be different. Your son will learn the caus and effect of him not listenning to you, and when he won't listen inthe future, you can always give him an option of doing what is asked ro having a time out.

Answer 6

Stop hitting him!  All you are doing is teaching him to hit.  He is three years old not thirty.  He is behaving the way three year olds behave.  He is going through what is referred to as the "terrible twos".  Ignore the tantrums and rather than hitting him start setting rules and boundaries and using time outs consistently.   Start accentuating his positive behavior while downplaying the negative.  Rather than give attneiton to the negative star giving attention to the positive.  The reason he behaves as he does is because it gets your attention.  When he does something that you WANT him to do praise, him start a "star" chart, If the only time you pay attention to him is when he misbehaves he is going to continue to misbehave.

Answer 7

I think that sometimes parents unknowing reinforce negative behaviors in their children. For example when a child throws a for a lot of parents will give that child attention. I think the best thing to do is ignore the behavior. Eventually the child realizes that the negative behavior is no longer getting them what they want. At the same time you should always reinforce good behavior. For instances if your child is behavior well and playing quietly you could say to that child. I am so proud of you for being such a good boy and playing quietly with your toys.  

Answer 8

Does he have a regular schedule?

I don't believe in putting a child in the corner, but I do believe in time out for a minute for each year old. I'd just keep putting him in TO.

Some would say to spank, but considering what you already have going, I'm not sure that will work.

Have you tried taking away privledges and toys? If you have to, strip his room bare and put it all in boxes and let him EARN it back.