Very inappropriate language. How should I handle this?

Question

I spent the day with my good friend having a garage sale. One of her good friends also came to help. I've met her briefly a few other times, but this was the first time I'd actually spent any time with her. While I was holding my 3 year old son and while my 1 year old was standing close by, she proceeded to talk to me about her neighbors and how they were "trashy n-words". She went on to discuss that there were lots of n-words in her town when she was growing up, but at least all those d**n n-words were confined to one neighborhood. I couldn't believe my ears. This woman is in her late 20's early 30's and thinks its OK to speak like that?! Let alone to speak that way in front of toddlers?! I was appalled and am still very disgusted.

Later that day, an African-American family pulled up to the garage sale and she turned to me and said, "Oh God. A whole carload of them and I'm not armed." That was the last straw. I politely excused myself, gathered up my children and left. I'm suppose to go back tomorrow to help, but I have no desire to be around this woman. Do I say something to my friend? Say something to the woman? Or simply avoid her all together? If I do say something, what should I say?

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

You know Glenna there in no end to Ignorance is there...you would think that in the times we live in people would SEE Hatred for what it is...but they don't, and continue to spew venom...it is disgusting.to classify an Entire race due to the shortcomings of a select few. There are the Good, Bad and the Ugly in EVERY RACE, not just one or two...her stupidity is inexcusable and I would TELL HER SO... say..."You know I sat here and listened to you violate my airspace with your ridiculous predjudice yesterday and if you wouldn't mind I would Greatly appreciate since we HAVE to work in unison together Today that you refrain from using racial slurs around myself or my children...then say HEY THANKS Appreciate it, smile BIG and walk away and begin helping your yard sale customers...that should shut her up...if it doesn't then she is just a COMPLETE FOOL...you may have to leave again and talk to your mutual friend about it later...Aloha and Good Luck~~Michelle~~

Answer 2

ok you need to tell her that is wrong to be saying c**p like that and especially around your children and plus i am mixed with black and i swear if she said that to me then i would have came up there with a medal bat and i ain't being racist or anything its just i don't like when people talk about my kind and its just plain wrong and stupid plus she is a racist i can tell

Answer 3

what a b*tch!

She should denfinatly not say that around children nor say it at all!

I say avoid her. shes not worth even talking too.

Honestly!