Very interesting... is this also true for men?

Question

http://www.elle.com/featurefullstory/13908/walter-kirn-on-relationships-june-2008-elle.html?ybf1=1

i notice this is VERY true for me. i often don't find the conventionally hot girl very attractive and fall for the plain looking one.

is thise also true for women? i know that evolutionarily it does not make sense? but is it?

Answer 1

Makes no sense you wouldn't find the hot girl attractive-- that's the whole point.  Unless you're naturally insecure that you'd have no chance with her and then automatically judge all other hot girls accordingly.

Answer 2

Well, of course.... And who says who is tho beautiful and who is the plain looking?

I have a friend who always cares for the tallest man or the fittest man.. I don't. I care for the stylish man.We all have our types and yes I do love looking at Brad Pitt but in every day life I click with someone that caches my eye with something more than just looks...

Answer 3

Yes I'd have to say it's true. I've dated both "gorgeous" guys and more "plain" ones. The plain ones I fell in love with and had long-term relationships with them.

Some of the gorgeous guys are just too concerned with their own attractiveness and everyone else's and have little else to offer. That just isn't attractive.

Answer 4

well i have a crooked nose and untamed hair and an enormous appetite for.................food???

Answer 5

If you think about it, it makes sense. Most people don't have enough self-confidence to talk to the "hotter" one, you feel as if they are on a higher level. The "plain" person is easier to talk to and therefore you can get along much easier and really connect, instead of trying to impress the higher standards of the "pretty" one. Though they may have no high standards we somehow think they do. As long as they are somewhat attractive we can push pass those flaws to connect.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

I think it's true of men who really want "wife material." While dating I've found the s**y girls to be dull. The odd thing is, many of them have educations, great educations at that, yet they don't seem to possess an intelligent cell in their size 2 bodies. The physically less pretty ones are easier to approach, more interesting to talk to and by the end up the night they usually end up being the most attractive girls in the room, to me at least.

Beauty is great. I love beautiful women. I love women with bangin bodies, great hair and skin but the most important thing to me at the end of the day is someone who I can some home and share my day with. I want a woman who will challenge me and who wants to be challenged as well and the typical s**y girl usually just wants to be babied.

Answer 8

Yes it's true for me. I would prefer an unconventionally attractive man to a conventionally "hot" one. Very good-looking people can sometimes be vain and tiresome as well (not always of course).

I think it does make sense from an evolutionary point of view too, because super handsome men are often slightly feminine.

Also, some men have charming, intelligent, "ugly" faces, and intelligence is more important to the gene pool to pass on than weak and vapid good looks.

Answer 9

its true of me. dont get me wrong, i find alot of girls pretty and the extremely good-looking girls are obviously pretty.

but, im more attracted to 'normal' looking girls. i dont know why. put it like this, at the moment im working in retail, the beauty department to be more precise. there are alot of girls i find very pretty, but i would not date them over the more 'plainer' looking girls.

we all have different tastes hero. from what ive read, i know you are feeling down on yourself, but (and im not having a go because i too have self-esteem issues at times) if you carried yourself with confidence and stopped believing that other peoples opinion about the way uou looked mattered, you'll be better of.

its tough, but you dont always wanna be sad do you?

Answer 10

It is refreshing to hear a man that is not looking for a pageant girl, but instead seeking someone genuine.  There are many ladies that have the same mindset.

That's the best relationship.  A good person with a loving and caring person of the same goals and interests.

Not some calender girl or poster boy.  Those never work out.  They are superficial and without a future.  Fun for a minute, then squash....

Answer 11

It's definitely true ... most women (not all) look for characteristics such as intelligence, good sense of humour, consideration and companionship in their life partner ahead of good looks and other supposedly 'premium' features.

However, it does tend to be the more mature girls (and boys) who look beyond the superficial.

The immature still need to discover for themselves that looks fade fast and money makes a hard pillow.

Also, I wonder re 'evolutionary' it makes sense ~ if humans mate basically for life, doesn't it make sense to have a mate that is likely to stick around, not flit off with the next hot item?

Companionship, intelligence and 'stickability' might be MORE successful evolution wise than power and looks, in the long run (talking millions of years).

Cheers :-)

Answer 12

Evolutionarily it does make sense. In terms of selecting the best possible mate in terms of being a wife and mother for your children.

Answer 13

men prefer the mediocre types of "hot" women for fear that the top ones may reject them - most men fear that men far better than them will be around them, and they will prefer the top men. so men play safe.

so do women - play safe. they pretend that they are after character, stability and innate goodness of the suitors rather than looks. Humbug!! they prefer the mediocre types, especially if they are not very bright and will become obedient husbands, for MARRIAGE. but for s*x, they slaver after the handsomest. being married to another is the last scruple they have = they will pursue the hot, smelly, s**y rascals always.