Very lonely. what the heck should I do?

Question

I'm going through a divorce and am now living on my own. I feel like I'm getting really depressed. I've also been diagnosed with major depressive disorder and ptsd. Can anyone tell me how they cope with there depression. Maybe how to stop the roller coaster of irrational emotions?

Answer 1

I would suggest that you talk to a mental health professional. I am chronic depressive and am going through a rough bout myself. If you ever want to talk, message me!

Answer 2

I know what it is like as I am separated form family and living alone for last seven years.

When I was thrown out from my own house and not allowed to see my kids, I felt depressed.I was thinking why it happened to me as I had not done any thing wrong as my partner is the one who cheated me. But being a woman with big mouth she had people in her side.

I was lucky to have a family member who is with correct medical training and be able to help me out. the main advice I got is live each hour separately and think only what you do at that time. She encouraged me to talk to her and let me cry as and when I feel like.

It was very difficult at the beginning but after few months the episodes became less painful. But it took few years to bounce back and start doing a job again.

But even now I feel I am unfairly victimised and feel bitter about the whole world.

Answer 3

I was diagnosed with depression, post traumatic stress disorder, post partum depression, ocd and I have to say , that talking to a therapist really helped me. Someone to just talk to, it was good for me. And I told myself that if I had nothing to do, I would just get more depressed. So, I went out and bought myself a whole bunch of art stuff, just a whole bunch of stuff, and i started doing scrapbooking, painting,colouring...and it kept my mind off of depression. It made me focus on something and I really enjoyed it. I love reading also, so I would go get myself a book or just sitting outside reading a magazine helped me.

Answer 4

Try getting a dog, such as a labrador retriever. The time  you spend into training the dog will keep your mind of your depression. You could also go out a lot friends  

Answer 5

Maybe you could get a pet to keep you company and cheer you up! Something like maybe a puppy or a cat maybe even a hamster or bunny. Why I'm suggesting animals is because whenever I'm feeling down and out my dog always cheers me up and I read an article somewhere about a man who had three puppies that cheered him up and helped clear up his depression.

I hope things get much better for you!

Answer 6

You can take loneliness on directly and resolve that it's not going to beat you. My favorite is Priscilla, who told me "I just decided to grab my loneliness, and I stuffed it in a bathtub full'o'water and held it there 'til it croaked." Colorful. May not be my style, but it got my attention.

You may choose something a little more subtle. If you're working to fight your loneliness, your main task is to move beyond yourself. Transfer your focus from yourself to others. You're already way ahead of me, aren't you?

Get some help. Counseling is always helpful in dealing with loneliness. A therapist can help you analyze what causes you to be lonely, and the more you understand it the less threatening it is. Counseling also works because of the simple truth that shared pain is half the pain, shared joy is twice the joy.  

Here's a web site dedicated to helping people fight loneliness, whatever the cause. Click here to go to www.stoploneliness.com.

Help other people. Volunteer your time at a homeless shelter. They're nearly always hungry for people, and you'll quickly realize that things could be worse.

Visit your aunt in the nursing home. She'll be glad to see you, and you'll immediately see what a difference you can make.

Answer 7

I had battled with depression for several years until I started seeing the right therapist.  I went through two therapists until I found the one that suited my personality.  I started seeing her pretty regularly four years ago, and now I see her about once a month, if even that.  

What therapy has given me is the life I never had.  It armed me with the ability to view almost all situations with a clear view.  Being able to navigate through life is liberating.  Therapy is not quick fix but it gives you just what you need at that moment.  The pain will slowly dissolve until you wake up one morning and realize that you're not depressed anymore.  Now being happy is something I identify with whereas before it seemed so foreign.  

I also work for a psychiatrist and have found the combination of working with a psychiatrist for med management and a therapist for psychotherapy can be quite successful too.  Though I've never taken medication for my depression, I've found that people who used their medication wisely greatly benefit from it.

On a side note, I find that when I cut out all toxins from my body, I feel really happy.  I went vegan (vegetarian with no dairy) for 4 months and ate lots of whole grains, raw fruits, vegetables, and nuts and never felt better, mentally and physically.  Getting healthy does wonders!

I hope this helps - you can beat this.

Answer 8

i am truly sorry you are going through a hard time.  i can only tell you from my past experience what worked and did not work for me.

i thought i wanted to be left alone...so i isolated myself...days turned to weeks to months....until i turned into a shell of a person.

recovery is hard and i fight it every day.  but, the best thing for me was small accompishable goals...like going to the grocery store, having dinner with family, and taking walks in the park.

join a support group, try to meet new people, stay active, volunteer your time, or take a class in something that interests you.  

good luck...you can email me if you ever need to talk!

Answer 9

by trying to relate with others and being there for them. helping others cope always helps me cope. im sorry for this and i wish you the best. iwas at rock bottom a few times but am back and now want ot be there for others. like you

Answer 10

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Answer 11

You need some s*x dude...