Very sad and heart broken, some uplifting words please.?

Question

I have been friends with Gilbert for 5-6 yrs now and he has been very supportive in some tough times by just being there for me. I have come to realize that after seeing other men, the one I really love was here all along. However, I doubt he thinks the same. I'm 28 and he is 34. anyway. We've been seeing each other for a few weeks now but have not verbalized anything or titled ourselves as a couple. I would be with him all day if I could, but I don't want to be too pushy. We had a fight two days ago and we haven't spoke since. I miss him. I called once but he didn't answer and I'm not going to call again. he hasn't called me. I'm just really sad. I think I lost a great friendship. This is very depressing.

Answer 1

Just leave a message telling him that you are sorry and how you really feel about him.. If he doesn't return your call then that means that he really doesn't feel the same way.

Keep your head high girl, Lifes is full of bad luck.. Also alot of good luck so,

Good luck, lol!

:)

Answer 2

In my opinion, I would really try to call again. A fight is nothing to lose a great friendship over. The best thing would be to make up with each other and fix how it got that way. I hope everything works out. Losing a great friend is tough, but imo you should try to fix it. It can only make it stronger.

Answer 3

Give it time. maybe three days and if he doesn't call back. march over to his house and apologize.

Answer 4

you need to call him , or go to his house with a snack, tell him your sorry for the fight and tell him how you feel. he probably feels the same way. dont give up  

Answer 5

Call him in a few days. Some things are worth fighting for.

Answer 6

zzzzz...oh, sorry, your boringly dramatic tale of woe put me to sleep.  tell you what.  quit being so boring and moody and dependent, be fun and bright and energetic.  buy a book called 'the rules' for starters.

he wants fun you.  not borrrrrring you.  

Answer 7

It seems you get depressed easily, it is best if you start working on your emotional issues before you try to get a man into your life. In other words, you are not ready to have a boyfriend.  

Answer 8

Forget him for now, work on you, go shopping, have fun. Force yourself to see other people. Do not call him.

Answer 9

Be patient

Answer 10

dnt beat yourself up.... everything will happen for the best... If a fight can break up a friendship 6 years strong then... it wasnt that strong to begin with!  

Answer 11

Gilbert's got a sore throat and his voice is husky... Imagine Gilbert picked your phone and said "H(usk)ello" LoL!!

Call him after a few days!!

Answer 12

Dear Broken Hearted:

After 5-6 years of friendship if Gilbert is a man with any integrity--which I am certain he is, I doubt he will just call a halt to your friendship over a silly disagreement.

Life is funny, do you know you rarely need to say a word and people often instinctively know how we're feeling.  If you think for one moment Gilbert does not sense you "care" about him, you are wrong.  I'm certain Gilbert knows very well how you feel.  A little words of wisdom:  Now that you know how you feel and are sure you care, curtail taking your most intimate problems to him.  People don't mean to judge, but let's face it, if a friend came to us and told us they had a rack of debt and continued to shop or open revolving credit accounts--we would judge them and begin to see them as irresponsible.  Men do the same things and if in the past you have let's say cheated on men and confided in Gilbert or just the opposite, were a "doormat"--men won't forget and after establishing such a rapport with someone 5 or 6 years later--you deserve a good shot.

Have you thought about how you will come clean with your feelings to Gilbert once he calls you?  He has a right to know, and you have a right to know if he feels the same way.  But I always ask people to mentally prepare for the worst--in case Gilbert does not feel the same affections for you, how will you prepare?  Can you honestly be mature and maintain the friendship if you are turned down?  Give this a lot of thought.

Don't be sad, he just needs a breather--he will call.  Try to exercise patience and give him his space.  Make sure to discuss what led up to the argument to prevent it from happening again and then tell him after a few days of speaking again that you have absolutely wonderful news you would like to share with him face to face (only)--take him for breakfast--for something sweet like pancakes and then divulge your sweetest information, hopes, and wishes!

Good luck!