Video games ruining our relationship?

Question

Alright so here's the deal...

My boyfriend and I have hit a rough patch lately and a lot of it stems from video games. Of course relationships are complicated.. and I could go on for hours about all the little details but video games are hurting me the most.

When I began dating my boyfriend video games were not a problem. I knew he had a past with world of war craft but I thought things had changed, or at the very least toned down. But now.. on a saturday night all he did was sleep... we went out for a little while... and then he proceeded to play video games just like he does everynight.

He thinks that just because I'm there and watching means that he "cares about me" and is enjoying time with me. I DON'T see it that way. I want more attention put on me.. and less on that c**p. I don't think I'm an attention w***e.. it's just a normal thing to want some private time.

I go to college an hour and a half away and I usually come home every weekend. I told him that I sacrifice bonding with my friends because of him but he thinks that "I have time to do that during the week and that I'm crazy". Anyway.. I don't want to pay for bus tickets if that's all he's going to do.

WATCHING VIDEO GAMES IS NOT FUN FOR ME.

I just don't know if this is going to be able to be reversed... people don't change that easily and I know that.

I'm not exactly a hobby filled person myself but I do like to have fun and experience more than games!

Is this relationship going anywhere or should I just cut the ties?

Problem is, easier said than done. I've been dating this guy for over a year, which to me as a 19 year old is significant, and I've invested a lot of time and energy into this relationship. I really do love him, and I really am committed to making things work, I just don't know if he is ready to hear out my concerns and make changes in his life.

What do I do? What would YOU do?

Answer 1

he sounds addicted tell him to get off the game and spend some time with you, if he doesn't do anything leave, but you want that to be your last option

Answer 2

some good  ideas are go do something that amuse both of u  like a water park or a day at the beach or a party to keep him away frm it  

Answer 3

Sit down and talk to him, if he really loves you then he should be willing to make some sacrifices. But at the same time, try and learn to enjoy games WITH him, maybe play a game together instead of him just having you watch?

If he is unwilling to compromise, then you need to cut the ties, apparently games are more important to him than you are.

Answer 4

Here are the best options in my opinion:

Get a World of Warcraft account

-or-

Tell how exactly how you feel. That you want to be with him and not watch him playing games. If that's all he wants to do then your relationship won't ever progress and you'll be stuck unhappy the rest of your life.

Answer 5

OMG girl, im so with you on this one. Its either WOW, or counter strike, or EQ... funny how i know all the abbreviations!! i have been with my guy for almost 3 years (im 22) and i have a lot of time and energy invested as well, d**n i moved from alaska to texas for him... lol.... so

anyways, i tell him that it pisses me off beyond imagination. he plays his games every night! like 6 hours a night, on a good night, sometimes more! if i was you i would sit him down and have a talk with him. ask him if he is willing to give up video games for the weekends when you come visit. you know if he really loves you he will! you also have to understand that those games are extremely addictive, they log on and have little real people they go do raids with and kill the big boss. Hahahaha, BOYS!!!!  so ask him and DO tell that you do not like that. sometimes for me if i am to wear minimal clothing then i can get his attention and pretty much have him not play his games for the day!!! try it!!! lol

Hope this helps a little

Good luck!

Answer 6

He is clearly addicted to video games and you are taking second place in his life.  I know this.  I once treated a girlfriend badly because of such an addiction.  Now I know better, and wish I could find someone worth having as she was.

You should step away from him.  Let him know that his addiction is unhealthy and bodes ill for a future together. Let him be alone to think about his choice of priorities.

If he comes around, as I have, then he is worth keeping.  If he pretends to come around then falls back into the addiction, your life with him would become a living h**l.  Don't marry a guy who can't get away from the games.

And if you live a bit north of San Francisco, come hiking or swimming with me!

Answer 7

Ask him if he's alliance or horde, then kick his *** in PvP.

Honestly, though, he might've dug his own grave. You should really tell him about how you feel, because it seems like this can only be resolved if he quits or you leave him. Most hardcore MMORPG players have a hard time balancing playtime with real life. Maybe in a couple of years when that game dies, he can realize what an *** he's been.