Virgin scared to have s*x?

Question

I'm 21 and getting married next month. My fiance and I are both virgins. I am very attracted to him and can't wait to share that with him but after going to the gynecologist for the first time it hurt really bad and now I'm really scared. My Doctor said everything was normal and it only hurt while he was doing the exam so I keep trying to tell myself it will be different in the moment. And now I've got my fiance scared to death too.

Answer 1

im scared to

Answer 2

if you think you shouldent then dont

Answer 3

I will level with you.  s*x might be a little painful the first couple of times you do it.  Not "OMG I never want to do this again" painful, but "gosh this would feel so much better if I could somehow stretch myself out."

It absolutely won't feel anything like the gynocologist.  As long as you are attracted to your fiance and turned on plenty before-hand, you should be relaxed and enjoying yourself for the most part.  If you aren't someone who becomes noticeable 'wet' when aroused, pick up some KY Jelly at Walgreens to make sure there isn't too much friction.  Tell him to go slowly.

This next part will get me some thumbs down, I'm sure.  If the pain is too much, obviously tell him to stop, but otherwise don't let him in on the details.  I've had experience with a friend whose husband was too afraid of causing her any pain to want to have s*x with her for quite a while - she was miserable.

Otherwise best of luck on your special night!

Answer 4

Aww poor thing. I can really relate to you. I am 20 and I'm waiting until I get married to have s*x. I'm scared to death as well. I've never been to the gyno but I can imagine that is nothing like being intimate with your husband. Remember, everyone has a first time. It's awesome that you and your fiancee have saved that for each other. I think you will both be okay and get comfortable really fast.  And it's important to not feel pressured. If you're both uncomfortable then don't rush. I know plenty of women who didn't go all the way on the wedding night and eased into it. After the first few times s*x will be great.

Answer 5

First of all, congratulations on your upcoming wedding! It's okay to be scared, I think everyone is their first time. First time at the gyno does hurt, it did for me. Then a few years later, I had to go again and it didn't hurt at all! I was surprised because I was very scared. I am also a virgin and was in a situation for s*x a few weeks ago. I chickened out so I can't tell you what the first time will be like. Hopefully you and your soon to be husband will be so happy the night of your wedding, you'll realize it's the time and it will happen. If not, he will wait. Just let it happen, don't rush it.