Visitation, twins 2 1/2 year old girls, and Sleeping??

Question

I have twin 2 1/2 year old daughters and they go see their father every other weekend from friday to sunday and his girlfriend informed me that she's been sleeping with my daughters in a bed at night!! I don't know what to do, I was really concerned about 2 months ago now when one of my twins started waking up every night screaming for me and wanting to get in bed with me, I have never let her sleep with me or anyone else!! We split up because he abused me so he's not much of a talker or doer when it comes to these kids and we can't discuss anything, I was wondering what I should do how to handle this, I know it's not healthy for my daughters and I am extremely concerned.(He just met this girl in January and I don't want every girl he dates sleeping in a bed with my kids!! Any info, websites, ANYTHING, I am desperate they go back to him in a week and I am worried it will just continue...Thanks...

Answer 1

tell her in no possible circumstances should she be in the same bed with your children. if they have trouble sleeping, the father can go to their room.  tell her if you find out it continues, you will take further action to have them removed from unsupervised visits legally.

if he doesnt care enough to put a stop to it, that means he doesn't care about keeping the children.

Answer 2

sit  your ex's new GF down and tell her that you are not comfortable with her sleeping in bed with your children, if she continues, you have to stop the sleepovers.

my other question is how on earth did he get visitation if he abused you, chances are he is going to abuse them too!

Answer 3

It's one thing if a kid climbs into bed with a parent because they had a bad dream, but it's a totally different ball game to have some third party wanting to sleep with the kids.

You should demand that she stops doing that.  Your children are old enough to sleep alone and if they get use to having an adult in bed with them it could mess with their development.  

Plus it's kind of creepy that some third party is sleeping with your kids.  Can you talk to a lawyer or a family counselor to find out what your rights are?  

If you think she is a threat file a restraining order.  Apparently they hand those out quite liberally on request and you don't even have to prove that your kids are in danger to get one, you just have to say that you THINK they are in danger.

Answer 4

we had the same problem my husbands 4 year old was sleeping in bed with her mom and he new boyfriend. she told us he sleeps in his underwear. we tried addressing it with her mom and shee said she could do whatever she wants at her house and cussed us out. we just kept his daughter till she got a court order to pick her up. we called cps too because she had been showing up with bruises. we didn't even know the guy was living with them so that made us question the bruises. we went to cps and they told us its ok as long and she says he's not touching her. and the bruises were ok as long as they weren't in a vital area. her mom took us to court so my husbadn could be thrown in jail for contempt ( because he kept the child) but the judge agreed he was justified and concerned for her safety. the jusge got after her mom but that was it. anyways maybe your cps is more competent or you can keep the girls but he might get a court order to get them if he cares if he doesn't then i dont think you'll have to worry.

Answer 5

This sounds like its going to be a big court disaster. You need to confront him and tell him your wishes. If he doesnt comply then he doesnt have the girls' best interest at heart and that speaks volumes about his fathering abilities. If you are continually ignored then you will have to get sole custody. If you were abused then how did you not get sole custody? If he's an unfit husband and abusive he's probably an unfit father.