Volleyball problems? pleasee help?

Question

i didnt make the school vball team last year and i wanted to go tryout again,so i went to tryouts this year&i hated it. the girls didnt talk to me at all.one girl on varsity that really doesnt like me was telling everyone else on the team that im bad& that she doesnt want me to be on the team.there were maybe one or two spikes that i felt like i looked stupid,and i could see her laughing at me. some people on varsity that i thought were my friends wouldnt talk to me. at the end of tryouts i was so bad because i couldnt concentrate anymore because of all this. before cuts i told the coach that i dont want to play anymore and i walked out of tryouts. i just couldnt stand those girls because they were such a mean clique. ive been told that im not bad at volleyball but i cant help but think that i am bad now. i worked so hard to go back and tryout and now i feel like im such a failure. is there any way to regain my confidence after something like this? thanks so much for reading this

Answer 1

Dont let anyone ever tell you how good you are!  They are just jealous that you will out do them.  If they were your real friends they would have talked to you!  if you love volleyball then dont let anyone get in your way. you are as good as you wanna be as long as your confidence is up. dont quit keep going and you will pursue what those girls thought was impossible.  Cause from the sound of it you love volleyball. you need to go to that coach and tell her straight up..that you love volleyball and nothing not even those mean girls will stand in your way...go and pursue what you were meant to do and thats playing the game of volleyball...just keep your heart into the sport and it will be worth it! lots of luv...texaschik! [smiles]

Answer 2

Join a USAV club team.  Go to usavolleyball.org, then the Wanna Play link, then the USA Volleyball regions link, then the RVA link and then the part of the map nearest to your home.  See if you can find a club near you.  You will find that the clubs have players that want to play.  You may run into negative players like in your school.  But not usually that bad.

I would also talk with the coach after you have a chance to calm down.  The coach should know about the problems with the other players.  Do not beg for a spot on the team.  Just tell the coach point blank and in plain English what you had to go through.  And tell the coach that you are not trying to make any excuses.  You are trying to give an explanation of what happened.  Thank the coach and apologize for walking out on the tryouts.

Answer 3

I had the same experiences in school.  Kids want to play with their friends and want to make it their own team.  There are many other leagues that you can play in.  Do you want to play for fun or for competition or both? Why not try to find a league without tryouts, that way you can practice and hone your game for another shot at the school team.  Players will always welcome someone they feel can help the team.  If they still treat you that way, why would you want to play with them anyway?

Answer 4

girls like that might be afraid that you might take their spot on the team. when people say mean things to bring you down it often makes them feel better about themselves. it sounds like you like the sport and enjoy it enough to go through try outs with those awful girls. i was kinda in that situation except it wasn't the girls on the team it was the coach. i was a starter on the varsity team but this year i couldn't make myself go back. lots of girls were upset but i could handle the way i was being treated and even though i loved the game. i couldn't do it. So if you were able to make it on the team could you handle the girls tearing you down and not building up?  You're not a failure you're a person with feelings? You have the confidence. You can do it. if you don't let them bother you. it is  hard i know. make the right decision for you.