Volleyball problems?

Question

ok i am in a group of about 44 girls for jounior olimpicsfor arizona, utah, and idaho. i am really good i guess.

like a week ago they said they would make 4 teams with 10 girls on each team....

but now they are saying they are only making 2 teams of 10 girls

like a week ago i felt like a spot on the team was promissed for sure. and that was my happy though while the earth was falling a part like it has been lately.

now i just feel a lack of confidence and i dont think i can make a team at all. it makes me feel like i am crumbling down with the rest of the world.

with my attitude i feel like i never will be able to make one of the teams......

i am in freshman on a varsity volleyball team and i have never felt this nervice or sad or scared in my live i am in need of help

do you know anything that will prepare me mentaly so i can do my best instead of having my head in the clouds please help

:( :( :( :( :(

Answer 1

why are you playing volleyball ??

to have fun right ??

remember to have fun think positive i can do this why wouldn't i make the team I'm good at _______  and _______ if they don't like me they are losing a great volleyball player !!

have fun and impress the coaches hit hard and don't swing when you pass

if you play club you will prob. make the team!

Answer 2

I have almost the same problem as you do. For a while, my spot on my highschool's varsity team was pretty much guaranteed and now my coach is brining in new girls that will play my spot and I feel threatened that I'm not needed or wanted. What ya gotta do is just let go, release. Stop thinking about IF you don't make the team. You've lived your life and been able to breathe before playing volleyball so if you don't get picked, you won't die. That's how I try to think of it but easier said than done. It's a big disappointment and self esteem crusher when that sort of thing happens. But really, I had one day of total sadness and depression about my team. I loafed around all day, thinking about volleyball, feeling bad for myself, thinking about quitting the team if I'm not important and then got up the next day, went to practice and played one of the best days of volleyball I've had in the whole 4 years I've been playing. I don't know if it's coincidence or not but try it. Let it all fall into place. Just relax. Stop thinking about volleyball and the what-if's and convince yourself that even if you don't get on this team, you have 3-4 years ahead of you of volleyball and so much room to improve I'm sure so you should be happy you even have the chance to be a frshman on varsity and such. Sorry if this didn't help, thought it might since I feel the same, like volleyball was the one stable thing and now it's not. Since you said you guess you're pretty good though, sounds like you do have confidence so go ahead and tell yourself you can compete with these girls, you deserve a spot just as much as they do, they aren't gods and you're gonna get one of those spots. Just take a break and when tryouts/practice come, work extra hard even if you feel like you're gonna die and it will pay off, I bet you'll make the team and you're worrying for nothing. If volleyball has been your stability, I'm sure it still will be you just have to give it time and get the kinks worked out. With my team, I felt ditched and thought of quitting if they don't need me but then I was like "you know what, scew that, I've paid my dues and I'm a good and much-needed player, i'll wait it out and let the coach figure it out for herself that she does need me on this team and if she decides not, then I had fun playing while it lasted." Good luck, don't worry yourself too much.

P.s. About the relaxing thing, I was in a group that big and felt so threatened like I wasn't good enough and when you lose confidence in yourself, it's like it blocks your body too and no matter how good you were, you can't play as well as you did so find a way to just chill and have fun with it and let your mind let go and then your body will open up and you'll play an awesome game.