Volleyball tryouts were this morning...?

Question

and I didn't try out because I don't want to play school volleyball. I don't want to be that dedicated - practice is everyday for 2 1/2 hours plus games and its pretty intense. And I most likely wouldn't get to play in the games because the coach already has his 1st string. I will, however, be playing club volleyball in the winter. Anyway, although I don't want to play, I'm regretting my decision for not trying out. But I know I shouldn't feel this way because I don't want to make the team anyway. Any one ever feel this way? Can you just help me feel ok with the decision I made? thank you

Answer 1

Okay no offense but you're whining because practice is 21/2 hours?

In the summer our school does two a days. We pratice 9-12 (eat lunch) and then practice 1-3.

If you aren't willing to put effort into the game, then you mine as well quit now.

Answer 2

You are HUMAN!  That's why you feel this way.  We always want what we don't have.  Or wish we could go back and change it, even if we already made the right decision.  Take a serious look at the pros and cons of joining the team.  If you are a very strong student and you don't take part in any other activities I would encourage you to join the team.  If you feel that too much would be taken away from your social life or time for studying, then you have made the right decision.  If you feel that you really should have joined you can always try out next year!  I think that it is a huge dedication to join a sports team and sometimes you see students who play sports suffer when it comes to grades & homework.  The students in sports will have to leave classes for tournaments and miss days because they are away.  Also with the two and a half hours of practice they are not likely going to get a great deal of time to catch up on what they had missed.  Stand by the decision you made!        

Answer 3

Hmmm, so working hard at team goals is not your thing. That's okay I guess, but you can't complain about it after the fact.

Let me ask you a question:

If your high school team practiced only 2 days a week for 2 hours and could only muster 1 win for the whole year, would you play then? I would venture to guess not.

Most kids today don't want to work hard to meet a common goal and just want it to happen to them naturally. This sort of feeling of entitlement is common in high school sports among players and parents. If a high school team practices every single night but wins championships, the parents and players will complain about the practice lengths and times. If we, as coaches, cut down the practice times and don't win championships, then we get yelled at for not properly preparing our team for games.

You can't have it both ways.

The fact that you are giving up on playing because "I most likely wouldn't get to play in the games because the coach already has his 1st string." is a complete line of BS. You don't know what the coach is thinking, the coach might have been very disappointed that you didn't show up for tryouts because he was counting on you.

So, you decided not to be dedicated because you think you won't play all the time? d**n, that's the most selfish thing I've heard on Yahoo Answers yet. No wonder you are regretting your decision.

Enjoy your fall season.

Answer 4

If its not in your heart you will never excel at it.  If you're worried about hectic practice schedules, you'd be better off joining the checkers team or something.

Answer 5

Omg..i had that same exact feeling wen deciding if i was gonna tryout for volleyball...i felt like it was wayy to much for me like my grades wuld get soo much lower and that i wuld have no sociall life. I thought that i wasnt good enuff and i wuldnt make the team. So in the begining of the summer i made up my mind an deicided i was gnna do it...like theres nothin to lose...so i went to 3 cmps to prep. 4 it and everything and im still in tryouts. Most probs. ur skool is still in tyryuts cuz mine said 1 day and its actually 5 so idt ur 2 late. iT REALLY GOOD Tho that even tho u dnt think that skool volleyball is rite 4 u, that ur doing club volleyball...it shows that u relly wanna do it its just that u wanna focus more on skool or other stuff,. Btw, as i just pretty much said..i felt that same exact way except i decided to try0ut for the skool v-ball cuz i have like no social lifee..lol jk. Um but justtso u kno..sumtimes club is more advanced than skool v-ball but its less time...wich is an awsum idea...like it think its better...Ima think about doing it..llol

well gl with it..and u made the rite decision by just doing what u like cuz if u made the team, u wuldnt b happy at al..trust me i tried ouit for cheerleading and had the same feeling..i made it then quit b4 it even started

So gl and have fun♥♥..just contnue to play volleyball..lol

Answer 6

Your situation is a typical one.  In most parts of the country club volleyball FAR out-shines scholastic volleyball.  Girls show potential college coaches their "stuff" in club VB, not so much in high school.  That's the way it is in our state.

Our perception is that scholastic VB can be WAY more political (or unfair, or biased - choose your favorite term) than club.

My daughter was cut from her 8th grade team because the coach's daughter didn't like her just weeks before she made the top national club team in our state. . . so she experienced first hand just how corrupt some adults can be.  We had lengthy talks with the school all year pointing out the corruption to eliminate any chances of such overt discrimination happening to any girls in future years.  I was probably way too naive, not realizing the hard feeling her school's VB staff could harbor against my family for pointing these things out to them.  We thought they'd just reform and embrace good VB, selecting good volleyball players to be on their teams and simply starting the best girls while make good efforts to play/train/develop the girls who aren't so good, but who still made the team.

My daughter sounds somewhat like you but she SO much wanted to play for her school after suffering that terrible injustice in 8th grade, that she did EVERYTHING the school has asked her on top of bringing 8-9 months of top notch national club experience to her school. As a freshman she scored the HIGHEST in athleticism events in try-outs (more so than any varisty senior !)

She made her JV team but, as I've been alluding to above, we're starting to see that favoritism rear its ugly head, as you point out, in what appears to be selection of the starters - and we're thinking it's not including my daughter!  It's shocking , thinking of the level of club play she had vs ANY of her team-mates, her try-out scores and how she's been playing at practice (basically, better than anyone else (I've seen it with my own eyes!)) So she's just really TIRED - as YOU sound, wondering, "what more can I do to get the respect I deserve- that I've earned?" She basically played twice as much, maybe three times as much VB at a level SO much higher than her JV team-mates for most of this past year and it DOES tire you out - especially when scholastic coaches can simply choose to ignore all that you've done and just play favorites- it can really drain the soul of any athlete who's given SO much of herself to a sport.

In case the starting thing plays out as we fear it might with her school, we're just going to get my girl into a club league where she can practice 1-2 times a week outside of her school practices (but get SO much more out of those club-ish practices than the JV) to get ready for what we're starting to call her "real season" - which is the club season , where she's recognized for the player that she truly is.  We'll keep her on the JV team because she's not a quitter, and keep praying that someday, just maybe -  the school VB system will decide to just select and play girls based on talent. If that doesn't happen - we'll keep her focus on her "real" season. So if you're feeling anything like my daughter as I describe her above - I don't blame you in the least for not try-ing out.  A couple of 6'3' high school girls we know don't even THINK about messing with school VB because they consider it SO inferior to club . .so if club's your focus . .don't worry about school, especially if you feel your school coach falls into that all too familiar mode we see among scholastic coaches - one that is political animal who plays favorites vs talent.