Vow Renewal Etiquette?

Question

Me and my DH legally got married this past saturday. We're planning on having a wedding in 2 years. The reason we did this is because I'm 8 months pregnant and didn't want the stress of a big wedding, and plus with baby on the way, we couldn't afford to have something big. What is the proper way to word the invitations and such when we send them our for the wedding/vow renewal date?

Answer 1

Wording for a vow renewal is very similar to wedding invitations.  Example:  "The pleasure of your company is requested at the reaffirmation of the wedding vows of Mr. & Mrs. John Doe on Saturday the sixth of October at seven o'clock at the Location/Address.  Reception immediately following ceremony."

An internet search for "vow renewal wording" could also help you come up with some creative and less formal ideas if needed.

Answer 2

Word it the same as a wedding except say something a long the lines of ' so and so request your presence to join them in the renewal of their marriage ' instead of wedding or marriage. I think they have sample wordings you can find on-line to.

Answer 3

Libby and Daniel Smith

(or more formally Mr. and Mrs. Daniel and Elizabeth Smith)

(cordially if formal) invite you to the renewal of their wedding vows

Saturday the ninth of August

Two Thousand and Ten

at five o clock p.m.

Westside Chapel

Fifth and Pomegranite

West Hamline California

Reception to follow Westside Hall

directly across from the Chapel

How cool that you are having a big blowout for your renewal of vows! However it is important to keep in mind that you are already married and thus you do not exactly get a wedding do-over. After all even if you were disappointed in your Sweet Sixteen or graduation party can you really go back to be a graduate or sixteenie?

So...you  can have a beautiful dress -- even a white one! But think sleek and sophisticated for your role as already a wife and mom and not a big floofy gown with a train.  And no veil.

You CAN each have a relative or close friend stand up with you as maid of honor and best man plus your baby who will be 2 can be ring bearer or flowergirl or ring girl or flower boy -- but five or six bridesmaids would be in very poor taste.

You can have a processional to come in but you and your husband should walk in together. You will not be a bride - he will not be a groom. You will be a married couple coming in together to say your vows before family and friends. So your dad giving you away or a big Here Comes the Bride moment is definitely out.  But you can still have a great entrance -- together.

There are lots of websites to help you write your own vows.

No bachelor parties or bachelorettes or bridal showers because you are not bachelors or bride. But you can have a wedding brunch or luncheon or cocktail party or pizza and beer -- really anything you want to get people together as long as it is not a salacious gift grab.

You CAN have any kind of fabulous cake your heart desires as long as there is not a bride and groom figurine on top.

You CAN have formal invitations obviously if you are having a formal party afterward and you can have the biggest blowout of a party your mind and budget can achieve -- only things missing will be introducing the bride and groom; first dance as husband and wife (since you are already married) an official dance with daddy (you can dance with your dad as much as you want but don`t announce it or do it in the spotlight alone or anything); throwing the garter and bouquet; etc.

You can delay your honeymoon if you want and if you call to book places -- don`t refer to the bridal suite or anything but you can say you are going on your honeymoon. It will probably be a family-moon with your then-2-year-old-baby and possibly a second child if you have one by then. Your days of traveling too far and long away from home are over for another eighteen years. I mean would you really fly to Hawaii and leave your baby on the mainland? If something happened you could not get back for a minimum of a full day while if you travel to a resort a couple hundred miles from home you can quickly fly back or be home in a matter of a few hours.

So -- best wishes on your MARRIAGE and family!

It is also possible that over 2 years your priorities might change and you will not want to spend an exhorbitant amount of money on a big party when you could put it away for your baby`s future.

Answer 4

First of all congrats on the remarriage, and on the baby. I would just say to the re marriage of so and so. Good luck.

Answer 5

I would say please join Mr. HisName & Mrs. YourName as we renew our wedding vows to each other on date in the church of Faith and Unity... we honor your presence, please RSVP by date, a reception will follow at someplace.

Answer 6

There are a few ways you can word the invite.

The pleasure of your company is requested to celebrate the marriage of Jane and John as they renew their vows on June 20th 2009.

or

Jane and Jack invite you to join in our joy as we reaffirm our vows on June 20th 2009.

If you are renewing you vows in a church or religious ceremony the you should use

Jane and Jack request the honor of your presence as they renew their vows on June 20th 2009.

good luck!