WEdding ceremony.. Should I make chart for my ushers?

Question

How can I avoid confusion?

Answer 1

Hi.  Heavens NO!  That will be way too confusing.

Tell the ushers to leave x*x amount (3 or 4) pews at the front on each side for the immediate family.  This is where your dad, mom, grandparents will sit.

Then....they can just seat the other guests wherever!  Sometimes it's bride's family on the left (as you walk down the aisle) and groom's family on the right (again, as you walk down the aisle), but many churches are getting away from the "sides" thing now.

So...simply instruct them to leave a few pews on each side and that's it!

Answer 2

If you have a lot of guests that need to be specifically seated, it might be best to designate certain ushers to certain rows, and have them armed with lists.

If it's just a matter of bride's side or groom's side, just have you ushers ask the guest if they are here for the bride or groom.  This should help clear up confusion.

As for seating family members, as long as they can put each grandma on the proper side, you should have no problems as to where the rest of the family sits, just make sure it's the right side!

Answer 3

At the rehearsal, they will walk through where to seat parents and grandparents. At that time, have them all there and count off the rows that you want reserved for family. Tell them that behind those rows, they can seat the rest of your guests. It will make it easier if you have some special "pew bow" or whatever to help them remember which rows are reserved for family.  

Answer 4

Generally the close family gets put up front, and everyone else just gets divided up on either side by relationship tot he bride or groom. If one side has more, tell them to fill in mutual friends on the side with less guests. I guess you could put together a little chart for the front if you have specific ideas, but having individual assigned seats for everyone would be kind of crazy. If there are people that may get in a fight, you can let the usher know to keep them apart if there is an easy way to identify them. This is usually a bigger issue for the reception though, since thats where the real socialization happens. THey really would have to haate each other to not be able to sit silently next to each other for the ceremony.

Answer 5

YES!  Make the chart if it involves lots of people.

It will help them in their duties and give you one less detail to worry about.  Once you give them the chart/list if they s***w up, you can legally beat them for messing up your wedding day! =0)

Congrats on the engagement and best wishes for the future!

Answer 6

You mean a seating chart for where to seat each person????That would simply add to the confusion if you ask me.

It used to be that the brides friends sat on the right and the grooms on the left. Sometimes there are not as many friends of one as the other so it looks lopsided so I have seen people sit wherever they want. The older people will tell the ushers that they are a friend of the bride , for example, and will prefer the right side.

As to the parents, tell them where to sit so they can tell the ushers in case the ushers forget but at the rehearsal that will be stated so try to not worry

Everything will not be perfect and there will be confusion but it wont be the end of the world if someone sits in the wrong place. The important thing is that you enjoy the day and not be too hung up on the rules . Wherever people are involved you can be certain there will be mistakes and someone will not do their job correctly so do not let it ruin your day

Answer 7

For church~~NO

don't go looking for more work than necessary

Brides family on 1 side

grooms on other

Answer 8

Ummm. No. Brides family and friends on left. Groom's on right. Parents in first row. Grandparents and close family in second row. It's pretty standard. If you want more than that from them you should be paying them.  

Answer 9

How difficult is your wedding seating going to be?

Most weddings just have the difference between a bride's relative/guest and a groom's, with a few seats or a row or something reserved for close family.  Any assigned seating above and beyond that is just unnecessary.

I don't really think a chart is necessary.  Just tell them what to do, it really can't be that complicated.

Answer 10

What on earth would you need a chart for?  Here is some info that may help you, but I wouldn't try and make it more complicated with charts etc.  Just keep it simple and you will have less to worry about!

http://wedding.theknot.com/real-weddings...