WHAT AM I? A WHAT???????

Question

I've been dating this guy for 2 months now, and he's a great guy says that he really like me. Everybody knows this guy to be a "player" and all his friends say that he's changed that he actually likes me. And so I'm the kind of person that gets upset at some of the stuff that he says that kinda of out of line (to me of course) and we've had a fall out twice because of it. And he has a lot of patience with me, because I have a short fuse. Aside from that we have an awesome time together, we balance each other out. He's a an Aries, and I'm a capricorn. (for astrology lovers only, haha) And I told him that when I'm not with him I'm not myself. I mean...I don't know. And a few nights prior to that, I asked him why is he still with me, after us having a fall out twice like that before, and he said because I like you. And I said I don't understand, and he said well, if you were me would you still be with me, and I said yes only if I loved you. And he said exactly. And for those of you who answered my question last night, thank you very much for your feedback.

Then going back to last night I said to him (joking around) maybe I should take a bet to not see you for a week and see how I do.

And today he sent me a text saying, that maybe I was right to take a break, I'm tired of these pointless fights. Which my words were twisted around.

And when I passed by his residence to drop off a friend off that lives near him as well, he was flipping me off and calling me a ***** and and ho... And I"m like.......

And I called him after he text me saying leave me alone!, **** you, go **** someone else....

And I was very very calm with him on the phone considering the fact that he was being very rude and disrespectful to me.

I just don't understand. Is he being an *** because he's falling too. I mean I just don't know.

HELP?

Answer 1

Honestly it really doesn't matter. Get some self-respect and find someone that won't treat you like a w***e.

Answer 2

save yourself the drama. for anyone to talk to you like this is not acceptable and you should show them the door. if not, this will keep happening. do you really think he will respect you if you allow this and take him back?  

Answer 3

He's being a bit over-dramatic on this whole situation. Couples have up's and down's all the time. It doesn't make your relationship with him any different from anyone else. I know that you're doing your best to be calm and mature about this situation. He obviously isn't. Try talking to him some more. If he keeps up with this whole "BlTCH" business, then he doesn't deserve you anymore. You need to move on. You don't deserve being treated this way. I agree that he twisted your words into a "break-up" excuse, when you obviously didn't mean it. You were just curious to see why he is still in the relationship. If he liked or loved you as much as he said he did the other day, then a mistake on your part like that shouldn't affect him in such a big way. If you guys truly loved each other, you would put behind your past and forget about your problems. If you love him, if you truly do, you would do anything to earn his forgiveness. But if you don't feel the spark or feelings you had for him before and you feel you are wasting your time and is the only one committed to this "upsy-downsy" relationship, then it's time to put your hat down and quit. Good luck and stay strong!

Answer 4

noooo he's not acting like this cuz he's 'falling'...he's being like this cuz he's a REAL DOUCHEBAG.

run.

RUN from him cuz he's messed up.

Answer 5

Im thinking that maybe somebody told him something about you that wasn't true... I think that you should talk to him and ask him why Is he being so rude and disrespectful to you, and if he just is because of just because then you don't need him find another guy who will treat you right

I hope that helped  

Answer 6

sounds to me like he doesnt want to play your games....whether you were joking or not you shouldnt have told him you need to take a week off. If he really likes you and was trying to change for you then you should have accepted that.  It seems you have trust issues and you are taking them out on him becuz of his past reputation.  Dont get me wrong i am not saying he was right for saying all those mean things to you.  I am just saying next time dont question why someone is with you.  Just enjoy the time you have with them and make the best of it.  If it doesnt work out then move on.  I think this relationship is done unless you can get past questioning his motives.  If you really want things to work with him then send him an email expressing your feelings and why you question things.  Maybe you can fix this and make the best of it.

Answer 7

guys are always *** holes.  they have there moments. i think you guys shoudl take a break for a bout a wek, if you find that you keep thinkings about each other than get back together with him.we all make mistakes. and dont care about wat people call him. a player it dosent matter.. as long as you like him than it will all be okay. oh and of course as long as he likes you back.give a little break and then start it gaain. if this time it wont work out than after three times of trieing i think its not worth it.

good luck

Answer 8

sounds like a d**k to me.

dump his ***. ;p

Answer 9

I think at this point your relationship should be terminated. Girl, you need to get your head on straight and NOT let someone talk to you like this. How disrespectful....he does NOT respect you and he never will.

I think you can find someone better....

Do me a favor...print what you wrote today and last night. Fold it up and tuck it away...then do NOT talk to the jerk for 2 solid weeks....no phone, no text, nothing. Then take out that paper and read what you wrote. I promise you won't need advice on what to do, you will know.  

Answer 10

Well, first of all, a guy is NOT going to change from being a "player" to being faithful because of one person, and especially a one person he disrespects to the fullest, need I say more ????  I didnt think so.

Answer 11

Yeah, dust that pompous a**!