WHAT DO I DO. schooling?

Question

i know that i myself am not mentally prepared to go to highschool. i have had a lot of problems in the previous two years. our district uses 7&8th grade as junior high. at the time i was moving from elemetary, my mom got a new job. she was having problems with being an alcoholic later in the year wich really affected me and my grades. in the last couple of months she went into rehab because of her heartfailure issues that were set off by the drinking. i didn't have time to do any of my homework or study because she was the only one that cooked and stuff. my dad was always tired after work and i had to help my bro get stuff to eat and do dishes and clean up around the house and then there was helping my bro with anything because i was concerned and thought that this would have really bad effects on his life. it only ruined mine. and when school was over i barely passed to the eighth grade. then next year the exact same situation came up again. it got a lot worse then. cause my parents would fight and then one of them would go to there parents house and the other would just stay on the couch watching tv or sleeping. then she got worse and had to go into rehab for another time with an extra month. that same thing happened with the grades. now i am moving to another school and i don't want to go. im not prepared. im mentally out of order because of family ordeals and i didn't learn anything in either grades. now im moving up again and i won't know anything improtant and key to passing. right now im passed the point of tutoring. i research alternatives like cyberschool and homeschool. i found that cyber schooling was my best bet. they would let me learn at my own pace and go over things again with me and i wouldn't have to worry about my peers. i do contact almost all of my friends from school so im fine in that . its just that my dad thinks that i should do like everyone else. i have tried explaining my situation to him and he still won't let me go through with it. i explained about how our local YMCA would let me do stuff to replace phys ed and how it wouldn't cost him a thing. its public schooling still but at a safer pace for my mind. they provide everything neccessary. what do i do. school starts in under a week and IM NOT READY FOR THAT!!! i have enough probs at home let alone school. i want to explode. please help me! i just cant pass at our local district!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

I felt that way, my children felt that way, my parents felt that way. It is part of the growing process. You will get through it OK.  It helps if some of your friends change schools with you. It is hard for them too. A year from now, you wont even remember being afraid.  You can't stay in middle school forever. And you will never be "ready".

Answer 2

Ok...the answer I just composed got deleted by a yahoo error!  I'll try this again.

I know things are hard for you right now and I give you a lot of credit for getting through all this so far.  You most likely have problems learning because of how stressed you are with your life outside of school.  There are classes you can take that are easier at first. They have things like general math where you start out with the more basic stuff.  

If you talk to a guidance counselor they can set up classes to go with your pace of learning.  They can work with you.  You just need to set up an appointment to talk to them.  Don't think the worst just yet!  

Stay late after school and study in the library or get your homework done in a place that's quiet.  It will help you focus better there than being at home.  Stay late and spend time with one of your teachers after school.  They are there to help you.  

Don't worry about what kids think or what teachers think.  They don't understand your situation and worrying about their opinions isn't going to help you right now.  Nothing was proven last year.  Your home life is a mess right now and it's affecting your grades.  It doesn't mean you are stupid!  

You have to believe in yourself.  You made it this far.  If you keep thinking you will fail, then you will fail.  You have to think positive and believe in yourself.  You can do this!

For right now, take a step back from everything!  You are going to make yourself sick from worrying so much.  Play a video game, listen to some music, or go find some stupid, silly website that will make you laugh.  Get your mind off of school right now and get some decent sleep.  In time, everything will work out and be okay!