WHAT SHOULD I DO??? PLEASE RESPOND

Question

My 51 year old mother has not been the best of a mother her whole life not to mention not being a very good person altogether. She lost her job two years ago that she had been working for 21 years. She received about $100,000 but since then hasn't kept a job and spent all of her money. Now she is depressed and has became mentally ill thinking that she has bugs and afraid of almost everything. She threatened suicide a three weeks ago and me and my sister called the police and had her committed for a week and a half. The mental institution put her on medication and set her free. Nearly a week after she was freed, she called me and told me that she had taken 32 Excederin PM and was ODing. I called the police again and they picked her up and pumped her stomach and now she is back in the hospital. They are releasing her tomorrow and she wants to move in with one of her kids and wants her kids to pay her bills and support her for a couple of years. None of us are willing to take her in because of numerous various reasons including bad history, financial and us having young children and she is a schitzophrenic on medication and is very unpredictable. She has a condo already that she can go to once she is released by the hospital. Once she was told that none of us children want to take her in because of the above mentioned reasons, she said she was going to "wrap her car around a telephone pole" once she is released because we won't give in and hung up on me. I know she is manipulating us by using that threat but also what if she really does it. Please someone GIVE ME YOUR OPINION ON THIS MATTER>>>>I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO...>Thanks

Answer 1

If you can, ask to speak to her Doctor that's in charge of releasing her.  Don't ask...Demand.  Then there is the part about her doing whatever she can to get out of there, including lying.  You need to accept the fact that it's alright to love your Mom and sometimes in certain cases, you have to turn your back on them to get them to the point that they will even acknowledge they have a problem.

She is sick and needs help, but it's up to her to accept the help.  You have to stay strong, and realize you have limits, and whatever she does when she gets released, is NOT YOUR FAULT.  Good luck.  I wish you the best.

Answer 2

go to court have her deemed crazy, then have her committed.

Answer 3

The first thing that I want to tell you is that I'm sorry that you have to deal with this.  I have some experience with this kind of situation and it sucks.  Now the first thing that you can do would be to talk to the hospital where she has been kept and see what needs to be done in order to have your mother committed.  They may also be able to give you some guidance as to how to deal with the suicide threats.  (I understand that you have the mixed feelings because of this being your mother and the frustration from the manipulation... trust me.)  No matter what you decision is, stick to your guns and think of your own financial situation as well as your children.  Good luck.  (Also, I don't know if you are from a religious back ground but this is a case for honest and prayer.  It helps.)